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What do you like better:

velvet or satin?
Queen or Moody Blues?
flaky or puffy pastry?
infinite or finite god?
art of pompeii or shunga?
oil or water color?
flats or heels?
classical or contemporary ballet?
German idealism or pragmatism?
studs or hoops?

The dirty little secret is that Mormonism taught you to lie. Honesty in the church brings shame and punishment, so most Mormons lie and go on with their lives. That it bothers you says something about your character, but you did what the circumstances required. My problem, Bob, was that I felt hope...

You know how polygamy was considered "right" under the proper authority and circumstances? Well, maybe erotic discussions and sex therapy can also be considered "right" under the same conditions. Just a thought. Maybe the bishop could hold adult parties where couples (and singles...

Drifting wrote:I wonder why the Bishop didn't invite the husbands to listen...

Because it would turn into group sex therapy, which the church is against.

Maybe they could host another meeting with the men, where they discuss ways to turn their wives on.

I think I need to resign from the church.

You need to stop obsessing about the past (which the church has taught you to do). It's over and done with and your wife knows everything. Let it go. Why could't I just have a happy religious life, Bob? Why do I look at my time with religion as a life filled with a giant lie? Why can't I look back ...

I'm also curious to know whether my TR renewal would be delayed for the sins I never divulged. When I get more time, I will post the juicies!

Well, if she had found out while we believed, it would have been devastating. I got a free pass on the divulge to wife part. Rather than divulge to a tbm wife, I divulged to an apostate wife. I guess I am beating myself up for nothing here. It's just this whole lying business that gets me. The "...

Well, the funny thing is my wife knows about my misdeeds. During the process of losing my religion, we talked about pretty much everything. Even though my wife and I have come to an understanding about everything, it doesn't change the fact that I lied to these men for 20 years. It also doesn't chan...

Dear God.