Inconceivable wrote:My wife (TBM) was telling me about a few more people in the ward that have asked to be released from their callings as well as another newly returned missionary that has gone inactive. It seems that once a Mormon (that places a high value on honesty, integrity and morality) has discovered the duplicitous nature of those they have trusted, they find it difficult to participate in the organization. At least they need some time to think things over before making further life changing decisions.
Well, my wife then said something that she has repeated often in our conversations (I’m paraphrasing here): “If you leave the church, where else would you go to keep your family from falling into immorality? There is no other church on earth that places such emphasis on family and living righteously”.
I’m discovering that this is an argument among Mormons that frightens members not just to have their names on the books but to be remain active members.
I am reminded of the movie/novel “The Village” (by M. Night Shyamalan). Members of the community were discouraged to venture beyond the town’s bounderies because of the perceived and even real dangers created by the village elders.
Why is it that there are no other churches or organizations (outside of the Mormon church) that do so much to emphasize and preserve traditional moral family values? Well, perhaps there are. Just because a Mormon has been told there aren’t doesn’t mean they don’t exist.
According to the elders, parents will fail in their nurturing without the assistance of "the church" - it does “take a village".
I understand that many of us place a great deal of value upon a sense of community where we desire to share common ideals with those we surround ourselves with. But does it really take a church, an organization or a Village to raise a child (or even a family) - protecting them from the real and even perceived dangers that lurk beyond it’s bounds?
Comments?
The Village ticked me off royally, mainly because I was still struggling as an LDS when I saw it, and saw so much of my (and others') experiences within the church in it. I left the theater shaking my head and thinking, "that's just like the church".
I have a friend who swears up and down that if she hadn't become LDS, she'd be dead. So she deals with the racism, she deals with the loneliness, she deals with the rejection....all because someone convinced her that life wasn't worth living if you weren't Mormon.
I have another friend who swears up and down that he "doesn't know how everyone else does it, because they don't have the priesthood", but somehow they've got to be good, moral people. It irritates me at times, but I usually leave him in his fantasy land. The few times that I've reamed him, he took a while to recover, and I just feel it's not worth it.
I don't think it takes a village or a church to be moral, good, or even raise a family. I do not get to go to church often because of my health. When I do get to my church, the people I know are happy to see me, but I feel the make too big of a deal over "how long its been" (you try having a stroke, not to mention being in pain every freaking day, tired most of the time, and see how easily you can trek the 20 miles I require to church). I feel that one can commune with God at any time, so I don't place a whole lot of weight on being in church each week. I miss my pastor's sermons, but I'm at a point where I just have to be resourceful. And it's a blessing, because there are some things within religion that pastor/teacher/preacher/whatever just aren't going to tell you, because it makes you think and question. And from what I've seen growing up, thinking, questioning people don't make the most enraptured audiences in church. Who wants to preach a sermon where someone stands up and contradicts them, or where the congregation grows smaller each week because folks know pastor is shafting them?
I think there is a lot of fear-based manipulation in Mormonism and also within fundamentalist Christianity. You're not a good religionist if you do certain things. I'm not a good Christian because I refuse to see homosexuals as d*** near animals. I'm not a good Christian because I want to not just read the English version of a Latin version of a Greek and Hebrew text, I want to get to the point where I can read those other three languages, and know a good bit about the cultures that the writers of the Bible lived in. Not only that, but I refuse to write off other faiths, regardless of what pastor or other people who "know the Bible" have to say. Memorization doesn't equate knowledge, in my book. I'm sorry.
I took a class last year that stated that many religious people live in a state of dualism, they have the sacred and they have the profane. They think that by separating life according to their perceptions, that they're pleasing God, but in reality all they're doing is fragmenting God's creation. They think that the concept of sin is an autonomous thing, instead of seeing it as something that perverts reality. A prostitute is still a human being. Alcoholism is not due just to drinking alcohol, there are emotional and psychological ramifications behind it. There are things in life that are just plain wrong, but there are also things in life that one must step back and think about. Example: I know people who will only listen to Gospel music or Contemporary Christian music, swearing that everything else is "of the Devil". I'm sorry, but I like me some Commodores, Peaches & Herb, Martina McBride, Boyz II Men (in concert day after my birthday!!!!), Ella Fitzgerald, and Aerosmith, just to name a very small few. God created the melody in my belief, man creates the words and the intent behind them. There is no such thing as an "evil melody" (though I came across a Mormon once who swore there was). So I'm not putting down my Fugees today. I feel I can listen to that and some Barlow Girl and still keep my integrity in tact.
Humans are too afraid of each other and their surroundings. You'd think we were still naked and extrememly hairy, running around beating our food to death.