Bike275 wrote:Many people say there is good in the church, and I believe that is the case. The problem I have is that it comes at a cost. For one to fit into the warm fuzzy there is another that agonizes with guilt. For every person that feels special there is another that the church causes to feel worthless.
If we are going to settle on the good in the church we must at least acknowledge it comes at a cost.
You're right. The church regularly subjects members to mind-control.
https://youtu.be/VUsOHsZIiA4 And when you're subjected to that from the time of birth (& your parents also maintain their cognitive distortions), the guilt and sense of worthlessness can feel overwhelming. In the cult/church mentality, is polarized (bi-polar) thinking: "You're either on the Lord's side or not." So, if we somehow do the long list of things we're shamed into doing - as part if the church's mission to "perfect the saints" - then we feel ok about ourselves. But if we fail in any area, suddenly in our minds, we're worthless because we're not perfectly on the Lord's side - which is always the case because nobody's perfect, and some of their list is dysfunctional.
The key is to breaking the power of mind-control. This will not happen over night, but I've learned a few things that are helping me. Correcting cognitive distortions
http://psychcentral.com/lib/15-common-c ... stortions/, healing life traps
http://www.tunnelukkosi.fi/en/lifetraps.htm and redefining gospel terms in psychologically healthier ways...
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...Examples of redefining gospel terms:
Anointed: Those who have been blessed, especially by God
Apostate: Name calling, ad-hominem attack use by those unaware they're in a cult
Baptism: Beautiful symbolic ritual to remind us of our spiritual and physical births, and rebirths
Believe: Firm hope that something is true
Celestial: Christ-like
Choose The Right: Do God's will above all
Commandments: scripture/socially learned... and spiritual personal circumstantial
Covenants with God: Covenants with LOVE
Faith: Hope that is acted on
Family: Those we love and are connected with - ultimately the entire world
Fast: To go without food for at least one meal, while praying with focused intention
Jesus Christ: Christ is not Jesus' last name, but what he became and encouraged us to follow him and become
Kingdom of God: Spiritual connection with God within us
Last Days: Heaven's Reward Fallacy. "The kingdom of God cometh not with observation, the kingdom of God is within you."
Lord's Side: All-or-Nothing thinking is "you are either on the Lord's side or you're not" - truth is we're mixed, depending on the circumstance
Love/Charity/Pure Love: Appreciating what is while striving for what is best - through trial and error - active faith
Marriage: Between a man and a woman, like a blueprint of intent to grow together in relating
Priesthood: Godly power
Repent: Correct one's thinking and related emotions and behavior - turning to God
Sin/Evil: Incorrect thought and related e-motions and behavior
Salvation: healed by correcting one's thinking
Satan/Adversary: unhealed part of us, incorrect thinking that ultimately causes suffering
Scriptures: Ancient writings of imperfect people which imperfect religious leaders have selected and often changed
Spirit: Intuitive sense that helps guide us - goal is to make subconscious more conscious through prayer and meditation
Temple: Body, mind and soul - place to connect spiritually
Tithing: 1/10 of increase, sometimes used by religious leaders to be rich, but is significantly intended for the poor (Deut 14:28-29)
Veil: Subjectively limited beliefs we are all subject to
Word of Wisdom: Spirit of wise choices in regards to health
Word: Spiritual/symbolic energy