JAK wrote:The Nehor wrote:JAK wrote:The Nehor wrote:I often say in my class, "If you're unhappy most of the time, you're doing something wrong. Don't beat yourself up about it. Fix it."
That person may be incapable of fixing it. That person may need professional help or at the least the help of genuine friends.
“Pull yourself by our own bootstraps” is a nice phase. It has a nice sound/ring to it. The fact of the matter is that people who are alcoholics or have other common psychological problems may lack the capacity to “Fix it” as you simplistically assert.
JAK
Thank you JAK. I should mention that when I said 'Fix it' I did not include a long discourse on how you have to do it entirely on your own or use cliches about bootstraps. Thank you for reading so deeply into my one sentence post. Overidentifying?
My brief post was based on previous posts of yours. It was pre-judging the extent to which you might have been inclusive regarding “fix it.”
However, given your 3600+ posts, I did think that you might have been more intellectually detailed than a two-word expression of what might be a serious, involved process of addressing one’s own situation and the possible need for professional assistance in a complex process of “fix it.”
JAK
I would have been more intellectually detailed but that would have been simplistic. You see, many of these problems are very complicated and without knowing the complete details I would be ill-advised to give advice on them. As it stands, if they are unhappy something is wrong. That problem should be corrected as soon as possible to improve quality of life. The first step in that process is recognizing that there is a problem and figuring out what actions should be taken to correct it.
Or you can wallow in how difficult it is and do nothing. I've tried that with my own problems. To be blunt, it's misery. Now, if you want to expand further on the problems in your life (including the complete disclosure of your mental fitness that I've been asking for ever since you questioned my sanity), I'll try to be more detailed and I expect other members of this board might be able to help even more.
I do think that the mindset that is overwhelmed by the complicated and difficult nature of problems rarely accomplishes anything. Short of my religious conversion and visionary experiences the most profound moment of my life came while I was ruining it. It was driven home to me that I had chosen where I was. While a bitter pill to swallow the next realization made up for it. When I could say, "I choose." it was only a short step to, "I choose differently."