With respect to the children who didn't make it back, I think the key, in Mormon theology, is the belief that wherever your children are, they chose that for themselves and are happy and satisfied with their choice, excepting of course those who become Sons of Perdition - and they still chose it, and even though they're miserable, it's still what they wanted.
Knowing that the children who won't return to the Celestial Kingdom are nevertheless satisfied with the lot they've chosen would lessen the distress of not actually living with them as a family unit, I think. At least, that's what we're meant to think, and there's some sense to it.
Don't think of it as "these kids are ripped from your arms by the cold claws of eternal justice, and you as a Mormon God just have to deal with it". Think of it as "you created all these children and they all choose what sort of glory they can and will abide, and will be satisfied with whatever level of glory that is, and many of your children will actually return and live with you in glory as Gods forever and ever". It doesn't sound so bad now, does it?
Here’s what it reminds me of. Let’s say Father Dearest is a doctor, from a long line of doctors. He has made clear to each of his children that he expects them to become doctors as well. In fact, he has made clear to his children that if they don’t become doctors, they will probably no longer be interested in his company, or able to tolerate it, because their interests will lay elsewhere. In other words, they need to associate with their “own kind”, nondoctors. Father Dearest realizes this means that his children will never see him again, nor he they, but Father Dearest is really into class distinction, and firmly believes nondoctors need to stay on their own side of the street. They’re happier with their own kind, after all.
Now, maybe Father Dearest’s nondoctor children will actually agree with him, in the end, and think they’re better off never seeing him again. After all, he’s clearly an ass. So I guess the real question is whether or not being a glorified, immortal ass who refuses to see most of his children ever again is a goal worth aspiring to.
But yeah, I do find the Mormon conception of Mormon men ruling over their own large harems of wives to be too patriarchal. It's male dominated. They claim it isn't, but it really is, and I find that objectionable.
Still, aside from the objectionable parts related to male-dominated women in a patriarchal harem system, I'd prefer to be a God for eternity than cease to exist.
Too bad it's just a figment of our imaginations. There isn't going to be any people becoming Gods after death. Oh well.
Not me. Ceasing to exist isn’t really problematic, in my view. We didn’t exist for a very long time before our births, and I haven’t been bothered by that one whit. Whereas being a GodAsshole is something I’d have to endure for a very long time. Ew.
The harem thing is really funny, isn’t it? Believers do their best to dress it up, but it’s so obviously the fantasy of a male who couldn’t keep his pants zipped that it’s laughable.
Now I will reveal my full nerdness in all its glory and admit I love BattleStar Galactica (the new one, not the old lame one). I’ll assume there’s at least one fellow nerd on this board. Remember when the cylons finally became mortal? Cylon 6 stated that mortality was necessary to fully appreciate life. I think there was a lot of truth to that. (and no, I’m not going to explain it all for the nonnerds among us)