why me wrote:DarkHelmet wrote:If you compare the Mormon women back then to the celebrity skanks today, then of course they come across as having more class and dignity. But I don't think those women back then are much different from today's LDS women. You may find this surprising, but most women, including LDS women, enjoy sex; even carnal, lustful, drooling-orgasm sex with their horny toad husbands. And most women, especially LDS women, want to be mothers. It seems apologists would prefer that Joseph Smith's plural wives lived sexless, childless lives with a man they rarely saw, and had to share with others, and that somehow makes polygamy OK. I'm not sure if that is any better than Brigham Young's polygamy where the wives were at least allowed to have some intimacy with their husbands, and bear his children. I'm curious if we did a poll, which version of polygamy the women here would prefer. I'm not a woman so I don't know the answer.
Here was my point: since Joseph Smith was considered a prophet of god and since some of the plural wives stayed behind and became inactive members or even perhaps former members, they may have spilled the beans somewhat in terms of the sex life with Joseph Smith. Most women know when a guy just wants their body and is using their body for their own personal pleasure. Lust, mouth drooling, talking dirty, horny toad sex etc would raise the radar for the women. But in Joseph Smith's case, no such reports from women exist. Now it would be wonderful if one of these former plural wives would have commented on Joseph Smith being a 19th century porn stud but...nope. In fact, not one of these women said a bad word about him.
Now of course, we do have the brotherton thread. But...the women who were directly involved with him as a plural wife should no signs of brothertonism.
Yeah, it was so super common for women to publicly talk about their sex lives back then. Even victims of rape and molestation were always going around talking about it in public. So very common. Lots of porn talk amongst the women folk in public venues.
And since we only have a few of the women say they had "carnal relations" with the man, it must have been very quick missionary style carnal relations. We can tell because of the lack of detail. Detail these women certainly would have given the public had it happened.
Not one woman said a bad word about him...well, except the few that did and they should be ignored since their stories aren't identical to the women who never said a bad word.
But then, what counts as a bad word to one won't to another. I consider it a huge red flag that Joseph approached Mary Rollins Lightner when she was 12 YEARS OLD and told her that she would be his and god had given her to him for a wife. No, that shouldn't be seen as inappropriate by anyone. *eye roll*
The fact that he approached his foster daughters to become his wives, well that shouldn't send up any red flags for people.. That is totally above board and appropriate for a man in a position of power and trust to do to girls who totally rely on him for their survival. Nothing bad at all about that.
The fact that he did a lot of it behind Emma's back and most of it without her approval shouldn't bother anyone either. After all, Jesus is gonna destroy her for being so insolent. What kind of woman wouldn't want her husband sleeping with half the females in town? She should have been HONORED!
Because a few of them had a freaking burning in their bosom to confirm that the totally appropriate advances of the charismatic prophet of the Lord were TRUE. And we all know that that ONLY happens when God really does approve of the union. No other women have EVER had that feeling about, say, a creepy old cult leader or anything.