sock puppet wrote:liz3564 wrote:You know...this type of behavior really angers me.
Both of my parents are LDS. But I was always brought up that family came first. No matter what happened, we should always be there for each other no matter what.
I just don't understand how your sister can, in good conscience, treat your mother this way. Your Mom sounds like a very lovely, giving person. And how can she deny her children getting to know their grandmother?
This is just barbaric. Sorry...it makes me want to slap her.
We've only touched the iceberg, but I agree with your sentiments.
My mother was gung-ho LDS. Two children under age 10 and yet was a temple worker two days a week, taught Sunday School and was deeply involved in organizing most of the ward parties. When I was about 10-12 years old, she took on being what I think would now be called the Young Women's Pres (great parties with all those hot looking teenage girls coming to our house and doting over me as 'a cute boy'--if only they knew what thoughts were running through my mind). Mom was always organizing ward activities or those just for the teenagers (Girls camp, parties, etc). We got a new bishop, and he relieved her of most everything, saying she was looking exhausted and was overworked, Church-wise. (My dad to this day says he never mentioned the calling-load of my mother to the bishop.)
Once my mother got a breather, inactivity was soon to follow. It was more than 15 years since she'd darkened the door to a Mormon chapel (other than to my mission farewell and then report) before I ever heard her utter a word of doubt. While her doubts are now voiced to me a couple of times a year, never heard her utter an anti word.
It sounds like your Mom experienced massive burn-out. Been there, done that.
One of the most freeing experiences in the Church for me was learning to say "No," and really being OK with it.