Family Issues

[_Jason Bourne]

Well Merc whatever led to this I hope as you pass through this tough time that the future ends up very bright.

I have a friend who went through and awful divorce. I wondered if he would ever recover. But a few years later he married a girl he had dated as a youth and he is happier than he ever was before. They have a wonderful marriage.

I hope the same for you in the future if that is what you want. For now just hang on.

[_Simon Belmont]

My wife and I have separated as of Friday night. I'm sitting here in a daze posting resumes all over. Fathers day was yesterday and I didn't see my kids nor talk with them. Life pretty much sucks right now. She has agreed to ask my permission concerning their eventual perceived need to be baptized at eight. I sit here in Murray while my wife is in Provo. The last two months have been hell.

In all this messed up past 4 months I have been asking myself why an organization that claims to be family oriented is breaking up mine. Stalwarts like my wife are steadfast in their definition of trust and see no qualms with redefining it based on allegiance to a tin god.

Sorry to hear about this, really. That royally sucks. Curious: how is the Church at fault?

[_Yahoo Bot]

Too bad Merc.

Just be the best possible father you can be and if you and the rest will fall in line. Maybe not quite the way you want it but it is a great start.

Be prepared for bad things to be said about you by friends and family, but never retaliate. Then, in the end, your children will rally around you and you will have the final victory.

YB

[_Yoda]

If she is being making it over the Church I hurt for you all the more.

Let me clarify, its not solely about the church. We went out of our way for 5 years to make it work since I have left. Changes in trust cascade throughout a relationships many facets.

Marriages are complicated.

Consider me an eternal optimist, but maybe there is still a way to work things out?

In keeping with the OP, could I ask a question? You can tell me if I'm getting too personal.

Did your Bishop try to encourage your wife to leave due to your inactivity?

[_Yoda]

Too bad Merc.

Just be the best possible father you can be and if you and the rest will fall in line. Maybe not quite the way you want it but it is a great start.

Be prepared for bad things to be said about you by friends and family, but never retaliate. Then, in the end, your children will rally around you and you will have the final victory.

YB

Wow. lightning must have struck twice. Bob and I actually agree on something! LOL

[_Mercury]

Sorry to hear about this, but how is the Church at fault?

please read my first post and ask a more in-depth question.

In all this messed up past 4 months I have been asking myself why an organization that claims to be family oriented is breaking up mine. Stalwarts like my wife are steadfast in their definition of trust and see no qualms with redefining it based on allegiance to a tin god.

[_Mercury]

Did your Bishop try to encourage your wife to leave due to your inactivity?

Semantics: its her bishop, and I have no information to indicate that she was pressured to leave by him.

[_Yoda]

Did your Bishop try to encourage your wife to leave due to your inactivity?

Semantics: its her bishop, and I have no information to indicate that she was pressured to leave by him.

Well, that's good news, at least. Bishops are, as a rule, instructed to encourage families to stay together, but I know there are a few who don't practice this.

Have you guys thought about professional marriage counseling? Would your wife be open to that?

[_why me]

Semantics: its her bishop, and I have no information to indicate that she was pressured to leave by him.

If she does not love you anymore, you may see divorce sooner than later. Most divorces come from a falling out of love and there is never just one reason for this. However, if you both have love for one another, you may still have a chance at being together again.

[_Blixa]

I'm really sorry to hear about this Merc. I hope you can work things out, or at least you can begin to feel better.