Temple covenants made during a sealing ceremony?

[_Buffalo]

Man, that's terrible. My heart goes out to you.

I'm sure it's more complicated (kids?), but my reaction would be DTMFA (dump the idiot already)

[_Mad Viking]

3 kids.

Married 15 years. Married 12 when I got an angry phone call from one of the guys' wife. Tried to make it work for the sake of my sweet kids. Saw signs of something happening again. Got a divorce foisted on me when I confronted her.

The BS about me betraying the covenants I made to her about the church is just an excuse to alleviate her guilt.

EDIT: She did go to the bishop 2 years after getting caught. She came out of the visit proclaiming that I'm abusive (the bishop's word according to her) and that she'd be justified in divorcing me. That was a year ago.

[_Mad Viking]

My dear Mad Viking (I love Vikings, by the way),

I think your wife should have said, "I *feel* like you are betraying me."

That seems more appropriate to me. It is also likely much closer to the truth. I understand this sentiment.

God's speed my friend from the north. My heart goes out to you.

My only advice in this matter is that you try and let her know that you can understand why she feels that way. As a former believer, I'm sure you do understand why.

Is there a way to remedy her ill feelings toward you? I don't know. I wish I knew. I really do.

Sincerely,

Zee.

I can understand how she would feel betrayed. She thought she was marrying someone strong enough in the faith that I would never leave. I whole heartedly accept the blame for that. It probably felt like a "bait and switch" to her. But, that was 7 years ago.

[_Spurven Ten Sing]

dude, you need to divorce that bitch. That's all there is to it.

[_Chap]

This does not sound likely to end well for your relationship with your present wife.

I suggest that you should consult a lawyer now about the options available to you, without at this stage telling your wife. That is NOT the same as initiating divorce proceedings. Take along a note of your income(s), assets owned, mortage owed etc.

Your wife sounds the kind of person who might be perfectly happy to leave you without a home, children or most of your income if she can get away with it. What is more, the church will probably be on her side. Protect yourself now. After what your wife has done, that is hardly a hostile act - and she will almost certainly end up blackening your character whatever you do.

[_Mad Viking]

This does not sound likely to end well for your relationship with your present wife.

Not likely.

I suggest that you should consult a lawyer now about the options available to you, without at this stage telling your wife. That is NOT the same as initiating divorce proceedings. Take along a note of your income(s), assets owned, mortage owed etc.

Already met with an attorney and we've been through mediation to establish the settlement. Actually, have another apointment with the mediator today as I have a few last minute changes I am proposing.

Your wife sounds the kind of person who might be perfectly happy to leave you without a home, children or most of your income if she can get away with it. What is more, the church will probably be on her side. Protect yourself now. After what your wife has done, that is hardly a hostile act - and she will almost certainly end up blackening your character whatever you do.

I will have primary residence of the children and am responsible for +95% of their care costs. Therefore, she is not getting child support. She will get a decent alimony check for the next 4 years however. Interestingly enough, she tried to blacken my name to her new bishop (not the same one she "confessed" to). Unexpectedly to her, I showed up at her meeting with him and told my side of the story. He wasn't buying what she was selling. I got the impression that he thought some of her friends were behind this (partially true) and that she was experiencing the all to common "mid-life crisis". I'm sure however, that there are many at the church who will buy her story (a story that commonly seems to be missing the details about her philandering).