why me wrote:I am not sure about intense sexual desire after 10 years of marriage. But attraction can certainly last. And there needs to be more to a sexual marriage besides lust.
I think that you would want the person who loves your daughter or son to have respect for your child and treat her or him accordingly. And have such love that would make the sexual experience mutual enjoyable for both.
And I think that this is the point behind modest dress: to elicit good emotions at the expense of the negative.
Lust isn't a negative emotion.
~Those who benefit from the status quo always attribute inequities to the choices of the underdog.~Ann Crittenden ~The Goddess is not separate from the world-She is the world and all things in it.~
(Nevo, Jan 23) And the Melchizedek Priesthood may not have been restored until the summer of 1830, several months after the organization of the Church.
~Those who benefit from the status quo always attribute inequities to the choices of the underdog.~Ann Crittenden ~The Goddess is not separate from the world-She is the world and all things in it.~
why me wrote:I am not sure about intense sexual desire after 10 years of marriage. But attraction can certainly last. And there needs to be more to a sexual marriage besides lust.
I think that you would want the person who loves your daughter or son to have respect for your child and treat her or him accordingly. And have such love that would make the sexual experience mutual enjoyable for both.
And I think that this is the point behind modest dress: to elicit good emotions at the expense of the negative.
Holy sheep shorts, Batman! If my son in law doesn't lust after my daughter after 10 years, then he'd best be explaining why... cause she's just as sexy now as she was on the day they got married (when they had to run to their hotel room before they could come to the wedding luncheon). They said it was because they had to change clothes. Changing clothes doesn't take an hour; we just rolled our eyes and ate without them.
Seriously, whyme. You're digging a big hole here.
(Nevo, Jan 23) And the Melchizedek Priesthood may not have been restored until the summer of 1830, several months after the organization of the Church.
Marriages where sexual attraction is lacking are marriages that end. Affairs, loss of connection...Roomate syndrome.
Sounds unhealthy to me.
~Those who benefit from the status quo always attribute inequities to the choices of the underdog.~Ann Crittenden ~The Goddess is not separate from the world-She is the world and all things in it.~
quaker wrote:The issue is that there is pretty extreme backlash for being sexually aroused if you are a guy.
An example is a middle school local to my city. They banned the skin tight yoga pants when worn without some sort of skirt or cover. Of course the girls complained that it was against their rights, and that boys should learn to deal with it,, control themselves etc.
The reasoning from the administrators is that the pants caused unnecessary distraction.
If the guys are constantly having to focus on hiding involuntary erections then they become very distracted. But they have girls telling them to control themselves, stop being horny, it's their fault, etc when in reality a big boner when a teacher forces you to stand up in class is the last thing a guy wants due to the consequences.
I suggest we begin erection awareness days around middle schools to address the problem. On this day all the boys can walk around without having to spend the day hiding the boners they pop whenever they catch a glimpse of the class hotty's booty and boobs.
I don't know if anyone else remembers what it's like to 13, but it doesn't matter how the girls dress, you're going to get several involuntary boners throughout the day. You have to always be carrying something so you can hold it over your crotch, just in case.
Puberty sucks
To quote Elaine Bennis from the "Shrinkage" episode of "Seinfeld", "I don't know how you guys live with those things!"
zeezrom wrote:I remember sitting in the waiting room as we would watch the girls through the big glass wall do baptisms for the dead. Did our youth leaders know how hard it was for us to continue reading D&C while this was going on? Strangely enough, most boys would only look up about when it was time for a girl to get out of the font. The water made those white jump suits skin tight!
So you liked light cotton too? Interesting. I thought that you were the type to feel guilty just by looking at a girl the wrong way. Good to see that you were a normal LDS boy.
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just me wrote:Marriages where sexual attraction is lacking are marriages that end. Affairs, loss of connection...Roomate syndrome.
Sounds unhealthy to me.
Okay, so now we are back to attraction. Good. That is the way it should be. But lust....maybe not...lust seems to fade within a short time and leads to more partners. Hard to quench lust.
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harmony wrote: Holy sheep shorts, Batman! If my son in law doesn't lust after my daughter after 10 years, then he'd best be explaining why... cause she's just as sexy now as she was on the day they got married (when they had to run to their hotel room before they could come to the wedding luncheon). They said it was because they had to change clothes. Changing clothes doesn't take an hour; we just rolled our eyes and ate without them.
Seriously, whyme. You're digging a big hole here.
You can ask your son in law if he is still lusting after your daughter after 10 years? I think that he still finds her sexually attractive and that is what keeps them going. I think that there are two things involved for both: the natural sex drive and attraction. But lust...like two horny grasshoppers who hop and run..maybe not.
I intend to lay a foundation that will revolutionize the whole world. Joseph Smith We are “to feed the hungry, to clothe the naked, to provide for the widow, to dry up the tear of the orphan, to comfort the afflicted, whether in this church, or in any other, or in no church at all…” Joseph Smith
Maybe not...but lust can fade with the partner. If we only base our sex drive on lust...we will be unhappy. There needs to be more than a youthful lust: attraction, emotional chemistry, the wish to please the other etc. With lust, it becomes a one way street of self pleasure to fulfill the need.
I intend to lay a foundation that will revolutionize the whole world. Joseph Smith We are “to feed the hungry, to clothe the naked, to provide for the widow, to dry up the tear of the orphan, to comfort the afflicted, whether in this church, or in any other, or in no church at all…” Joseph Smith
