The Nehor wrote:Women talk about men's reaction to the sight of women as if it is the man's fault and can be controlled. Let me state unequivocally that in 90% of the cases it CANNOT be controlled. I can control my actions in reaction to the endorphins rushing into my brain but even then I'm a fuzzy-headed idiot while doing it. Women do have that power and while I agree with the above posters that that alone should NEVER be how a woman defines herself denying the real effects it has on men is foolish.
Elder Oaks was right in that a scantily dressed girl will send thoughts rushing through my brain and unconcious reactions that to be honest I don't want to deal with unless it's going to lead to something more.....the male sex drive has a very hard time accepting the 'go so far and then stop' concept. Modest dress is a gift to guys. The opposite is also true but to a lesser degree.
This is the issue for me. It seems like a lot of people believe that having a normal reaction to an attractive member of the opposite sex is somehow sinful. Hence, The Nehor sees a beautiful woman and is aroused and then feels guilty because he can't "go so far and then stop." The message seems to be that, since men react this way, and such reactions are both sinful and uncontrollable, women should give men the "gift" of modesty.
Why is a natural physiological reaction inherently "bad," and why is it the other person's responsibility to not get you to react that way?