As a believer, I don't expect you to see or understand the many negative impacts Mormonism has had on many families and individuals. Read up on this and become enlightened. There's hundreds of case studies out there if you choose to look.
There are just as many studies on how much Mormonism is a positive influence on familes. There are studies to show that monkeys mate slower after eating dogfood... So what?
As for all the stories, if you read into many of them, you can see often they blame Mormomism for everything. It's a cheap trick that anyone can play. If your so blind that you go to Anti-Mormon websites not expecting stories with an Anti-Mormon bend, you really got your head in the sand.
Your reasoning doesn't follow. Teaching your children that Mormonism has, or can have, certain harmful effects is hardly brainwashing.
One man's brainwashing is another man's protection.
You started out complaining that we critics use the term brainwashing too liberally, and you've now expanded the definition way past anything critics would use.
Of course. My definition of Brainwashing isn't restricted to "Any teaching that the Mormon Church promotes that I don't agree with is Brainwashing". I know, foolish me.
JMS