Divorce is in the air (wife caught me looking at porn)

[_Hoops]

On the off chance you are serious, you might get better results if you refrain from insulting the people you are asking for advice in your opening post, but hey, what the hell.

Seriously? You're offended by that? Do you spend any time with men?

[_Baker]

Do you love your wife?

If you she wants you to stop looking at porn then stop looking at porn.

Geez.

Do you like sex? What if you weren't having it?

Are you married? Are you a celibate Mormon male like so many others except when it's time to pop out a baby?

Didn't you say you were having sex a few times a month? Geez, for a lot of people that would be a substantial increase. Grow up and learn to control yourself, you're not an animal (I assume).

And why not devote your interim fantasies to considering new ways in which you might please your wife?

[_Abaddon]

Porn is a tragedy. The complete objectification of women as objects of sexual gratification is shameful. Sexual intimacy absent emotional intimacy is base and vapid. Women are to be admired as much (and hopefully more) for their worth as fellow and equal human beings as for their physical appearance. Shame on any father of daughters who darkens his mind with such filth!

Consider me shamed. </sarcasm>

[_Abaddon]

I'm so curious--have you two talked about how often men need to have sex? Not just you but all men in general? I'm not saying it's her fault that her husband views porn because that's YOUR choice, but maybe if she understood that men need it more than twice a month she could help the situation out.

We've talked about it, oh, since we were married 9 years ago.

[_Hoops]

Simple question,

Is jacking off to porn worth losing your wife and wrecking your family?

Or how about giviing it up more than twice a month. Oh, I see, once the word "porn" is muttered, it must be the man's fault. Puh-lease.

[_truth dancer]

If you want to stay married and your wife is not OK with your porn viewing then stop viewing.

If you want more sex with your wife, then tell her and ask for her support, (smile) perhaps see a marriage counselor.

I think it is healthy to be honest with your wife and yourself; and always take the high road.

Anything else? :-)

~td~

[_Abaddon]

Do you love your wife?

If you she wants you to stop looking at porn then stop looking at porn.

Geez.

I actually agree. Well... I would suggest telling her you need IT more often too.

I have. Nothing's changed. Moving on to next response.

[_Hoops]

Didn't you say you were having sex a few times a month? Geez, for a lot of people that would be a substantial increase. Grow up and learn to control yourself, you're not an animal (I assume).

And why not devote your interim fantasies to considering new ways in which you might please your wife?

Okay, you're not serious, are you?

[_Abaddon]

How did she find out? Did you forget to clear your history or did she catch you in the act?

It's irrelevant to the thread. Moving on.

[_Hoops]

If you want to stay married and your wife is not OK with your porn viewing then stop viewing.

If you want more sex with your wife, then tell her and ask for her support, (smile) perhaps see a marriage counselor.

I think it is healthy to be honest with your wife and yourself; and always take the high road.

Anything else? :-)

~td~

And the reverse is true. If she wants to stay married she could a) give it up more, or b) not worry about it if he looks at porn.

Two way street.