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Did the bishop ever ask if you masturbated?

 
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Mattie wrote:I don't get the obsession with masturbation on this forum. There are several current discussions on that topic. Why is that?


Well this is a little more than usual. The only reason I made this poll was because BSspace thinks it's just a few people that got asked by our bishops if we masturbated. So I was curious if it was just my part of the world or does the general membership get asked the question.

It's funny if BCspace thinks we are all liars. You know how insane that would have to be if we all got together and said "hey lets create and antimormon lie and tell everyone that the Mormon bishops ask us if we masturbate."
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Mattie wrote:
Drifting wrote:We've been active Mormons

What is that supposed to mean?


A lot of young men are emotionally scarred from the anti-masturbation policy of the LDS church. Part of the healing process can be discussing what happened, why it was wrong and desired changes.
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just me wrote:A lot of young men are emotionally scarred from the anti-masturbation policy of the LDS church. Part of the healing process can be discussing what happened, why it was wrong and desired changes.


In other words, we can leave the church but can't leave it alone. ;-)
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Mattie wrote:
Drifting wrote:
We've been active Mormons

What is that supposed to mean?


It means we talk about it a lot because we use to be Mormons and when we went to church they talked about it a lot. This is Mormon discussions so the topic will come up just about as often as they bring it up. Probably was brought up in my Mormon life once every 2 weeks.

You are a girl though so you probably didn't hear about it as often.

Plus when you are taught it is evil but it seemed like something that was so natural to do it was hard not to think of it. When you go six months without doing it that can drive a guy insane and frustrated. So yes it needs to be talked about because this issue made me think I was a big fat sinner for 16 years of my life. That's got to do some damage to a person and it's hard to get over.
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Rambo wrote:
Mattie wrote:I don't get the obsession with masturbation on this forum. There are several current discussions on that topic. Why is that?


Well this is a little more than usual. The only reason I made this poll was because BSspace thinks it's just a few people that got asked by are bishops if we masturbated. So I was curious if it was just my part of the world or does the general membership get asked the question.

It's funny if BCspace thinks we are all liars. You know insane that would have to be if we all got together and said "hey lets create and antimormon lie and tell everyone that the Mormon bishops ask us if we masturbate."

My bishop never asked me about masturbation. I don't know if it was discussed with my brothers. I doubt it. But I don't see the point with these discussions.

I've been trying to find some value to the discussions on this forum, but so far it seems to me nothing more than a place where former LDS members gripe about what they don't like about Mormonism. I've finally been able to identify what appear to be two or three believing LDS, but it looks like this place is mainly just for former LDS with an axe to grind. And it looks like there is a universal obsession with masturbation.
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Rambo wrote:It means we talk about it a lot because we use to be Mormons and when we went to church they talked about it a lot. This is Mormon discussions so the topic will come up just about as often as they bring it up. Probably was brought up in my Mormon life once every 2 weeks.

You are a girl though so you probably didn't hear about it as often.

Plus when you are taught it is evil but it seemed like something that was so natural to do it was hard not to think of it. When you go six months without doing it that can drive a guy insane and frustrated. So yes it needs to be talked about because this issue made me think I was a big fat sinner for 16 years of my life. That's got to do some damage to a person and it's hard to get over.


I mentioned the M-word in my book as part of the chapter on missionary preparation and the pre-mission interview. A female relative asked me, "Why would you put that in? What's the point?" I said that, for me, it was a big part of feeling I was worthy to serve a mission (I could honestly say when I had my interview that it wasn't a problem in my life at all).

She couldn't understand what I meant, so I told her that, from the time I was 12, this was a huge deal, something pounded into us routinely in priesthood lessons, at Scout activities, and in interviews.

"Well, so what?" she asked. "You got the same kind of teaching about the Word of Wisdom and the other commandments."

No, we didn't. That was my point.
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Mattie wrote:My bishop never asked me about masturbation. I don't know if it was discussed with my brothers. I doubt it. But I don't see the point with these discussions.


That is because you are a girl and a troll.
How about you ask your brothers. Are you calling me a liar?

I've been trying to find some value to the discussions on this forum, but so far it seems to me nothing more than a place where former LDS members gripe about what they don't like about Mormonism. I've finally been able to identify what appear to be two or three believing LDS, but it looks like this place is mainly just for former LDS with an axe to grind. And it looks like there is a universal obsession with masturbation.


Then damned leave.
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What's the difference between a Dementor and the Mormon church?

One is a dark presence that sucks all the joy and life from your soul, and the other is a character in the Harry Potter books.
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I was not asked as a youth till I confessed it, then I was asked and confessing it almost every interview. I was likely 12 or so when I first fully masturbated. I did not even know what had happened but I knew it was glorious, that is until about a year or so later when I discovered what a horrible sin what I had discovered was. Then I was in hell with mental self loathing, abuse, depression and such since I constantly failed at abstaining.

When I was a bishop all I asked was if the interviewee kept the law of chastity, which at times I was asked to define. I always kept the definition age appropriate and tried to understand what the youth had been taught. I did have many youth and even a few adults confess it.

I knew many bishops who asked the specific question and one who stated "I don't ask if they have masturbated anymore. I ask when was the last time."
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Rambo wrote:That is because you are a girl and a troll.
How about you ask your brothers. Are you calling me a liar?


The only thing that bothers me about this kind of stuff from bcspace and Mattie and others is that it is a deliberate attempt to devalue and delegitimize our experience. It's not enough to say that they haven't experienced this, but they insist we haven't, either. In that way, we can be dismissed as liars or worse.

At one point, I may have been convinced that we were the exception to the rule, but I doubt it.
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