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Coggins7 wrote:Pure hokum. In ancient Rome, the source for many of our own marriage traditions, all classes of Romans married freely, from the elites to peasants, soldiers, and slaves. Unlike modern Jedeo/Christian concepts, most marriages were "common law" in that all that was required was the consent of the two parties. There were still formalities involved, however, and "free" marriages were still considered marriages in a legal sense.


What do you mean "all classes of Romans married freely"? At the very least the elites almost always went into arranged strategic marriages by the paterfamilii of the noble families.
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Jersey Girl wrote:
Moniker wrote:What's the problem with porn saturating the earth?



LMAO!


I'm sitting here eating a banana and considering whether to make a video and upload it... do my part for the fruit fetish enthusiasts of the earth.
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Moniker wrote:
Jersey Girl wrote:
Moniker wrote:What's the problem with porn saturating the earth?



LMAO!


I'm sitting here eating a banana and considering whether to make a video and upload it... do my part for the fruit fetish enthusiasts of the earth.


*Bond considers....ah screw it....HOW DO THE DAMN BANANAS GET ALL THE F***ING BREAKS?*
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Perhaps in all the pages on this tread I missed some crucial point that you are focusing on. I thought you had asked Coggins for some clarification on his sweeping cartoon about the 60s. My picture of that time and its effects is one of a kalidiscope of different things happening with a variety of results. Some results were bad some dubious and some good. A whole history of race relationships hit a fundamental turning point and our whole society was shaken by waves of reassing convention. The reassessment of race relations opened doors to reassessing relationships between the sexs. Opportunities for women started to be opened. One could characterize the sixties as these changes but their opposite also found new ways to come out. Some sexual attitudes in the sixties were a sort of male focused expectation of service from women. Some fuel for the femisnist movement came from reaction against male versions of the sexual revolution.

If a person wants to try and tie the change of the sixties up into amusing oversimplifications such as Coggins enjoys I suggest an alternative. The 1960 could be seen as the point our society escaped the traditional sexual structure of keeping large numbers of women in the prostitution business and as a result defining male sexuality as predatory and mercenary and womens role as either fallen or unfallen, sexual or pure. With an escape from the structure of social expectation created by widespread prostitution considered normal in society women could understand themselves as sexual with out always being sure they were not being confused with that other group of fallen ladies. Men were reminded that relations worked upon respect for women instead of power of purchase.

I rereflect that in my small western town the official downtown whorehouses closed their doors in the 1960. I think my town is cleaner and fundamentally better as a result. Perhaps my town was a bit slow in this change from the situation some decades earlier where any and all small medium or large towns had established houses of prostitution. They were closed more and more about the country. The last I know of along the Coer de lane river in Idaho closeed in the 1980s.



In the first place, you should stop playing word games and come clean, up front, regarding your ideology and general world view so that we can get an orientation to your overall philosophy. Phrases such as "his sweeping cartoon about the 60s" and "amusing oversimplifications" sounds pretty much like the traditional leftist intellectual smarm that usually hides a lack to knowledge or serious analysis of the material. Given that a large number of some of the best minds in 20th century social criticism and political philosophy essentially agree with my view of the sixties in an overall sense, It would be of little interest to me to point out ad nauseum to Huck that his views of the matter are hardly non-controversial.

Now, the civil rights movement was a product of the fifties, not the sixties, and only reached its culmination in 1964. What the sixties and early seventies brought was the rise and colonization of the civil rights movement by the Black Power movement, or Black cultural nationalism. The change in attitudes regarding race were certainly welcome, but it wasn't the Left that either fomented or oversaw those changes. Indeed, it was the sixties Left that corrupted and destroyed the original integrationist movement at its core.

The statement "The 1960 could be seen as the point our society escaped the traditional sexual structure of keeping large numbers of women in the prostitution business and as a result defining male sexuality as predatory and mercenary and womens role as either fallen or unfallen, sexual or pure., could probably best be understood as academic leftist psychobabble, but I'll give it the benefit of the doubt, even though it is, in essence, unintelligible.

The idea that the sixties released mass numbers of woman from the "prostitution business" is simply extraordinary. Figuring out what this is even talking about is the first task. Once that fails, we move on to the very obvious truth that it was the sexual revolution, radical feminism, and the rise and legitimization of pornography that has expanded the world wide trade in flesh to levels unprecedented in the history of the planet. Huck must have missed the extensive links and quotes I provided on the porn driven global sex slavery industry. This wasn't' created by Judeo/Christian sexual mores or "traditional family values" but by philosophies in aggressive and diametric opposition to them. Here is the rise in unwed births (in this case to white woman) between 1965 and 2000:


Births to Unmarried White Women

(as a percentage of all births)
1965 4.0%
[(1968) Levy v. Louisiana]
1970 5.7%
1975 7.3%
1980 11.0%
1985 15.0%
1990 20.0%
1995 25.3%
2000 27.1%



In 40 years, unwed motherhood among whites went from almost nothing to almost 30% of all live births. Now, if Huck knows what he is talking about in the slightest, he knows that similar births to Black woman are hovering near 70% now, up from about 23% in the same era. Now, what ideologies, ideas, philosophies, and policies (with those policy's incentives and pressures) created the conditions for cultural shifts such as this, and in what era did they gain prominence?

Let's continue our tour of an abstract from a U.C. Berkeley Sociology course description:

With an escape from the structure of social expectation created by widespread prostitution considered normal in society women could understand themselves as sexual with out always being sure they were not being confused with that other group of fallen ladies. Men were reminded that relations worked upon respect for women instead of power of purchase.


Confused? You're in good company. Widespread prostitution was considered "normal" in post sixties North America? This, folks, is the product of the mind, not of a serous thinker, but of an ideologist who has allowed his mind to be colonized and savaged by highly tendentious theoretical cobwebs that are more interested in the triumph of an ideological vision than in a search for truth. The entire analysis is so utterly and shockingly detached from reality and serious critical reflection that it makes one's eyes water. This is what happens when complex historical phenomena are subjected to thorough ideological revision and forced through a process of ideological cleansing before analysis even begins. Huckleberry doesn't care about reaching for the truth; he doesn't need to, as he already has the truth tucked neatly into his little leftist/feminist/Cultural Marxist search light that he can then use to illuminate any question of the human condition. That's what ideology is for; its what you conform history to, not a methodology with which to explore and understand history.

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rereflect that in my small western town the official downtown whorehouses closed their doors in the 1960. I think my town is cleaner and fundamentally better as a result. Perhaps my town was a bit slow in this change from the situation some decades earlier where any and all small medium or large towns had established houses of prostitution. They were closed more and more about the country. The last I know of along the Coer de lane river in Idaho closed in the 1980s.
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What the??? There are whorehouses all throughout North America. Some of them are called "gentleman's clubs". Some "escort services". Others have little pink lights around the windows and say "massage". A number of them are also underground operations and feature Shanghaied girls from Mexico, Latin America, Asia, and whatnot, existing as sexual slaves. The sixties ended prostitution? Have you taken your temperature lately?

Ever been to Amsterdam or Copenhagen, Huck?

What's truly shocking is that Huck isn't even cognizant of any need to even make an attempt at making his ideological template fit actual historical evidence.
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I am really puzzled about your marriage comments. I think you seriously underestimate, or appear to underestimate, the pervasive place of marriage in human society. Your observation about marriage c 1000 in Europe I think is misleading. The fact many people without funds or social standing did not have official church wedding hardly means that they did not form marriage relationships. People married in history long before there was a church or a central government. It was something done by local community or family. The Catholic church tried to take over the role. 1000 ad that takeover was not complete and would have been applicable to higher classes primarily. Other poeple would have made other arrangements.



I do agree with Huck, however, on the points made above.

There is a revisionist school of thought in the historical profession that has made a cottage industry of trying to show either that ancient marriage wasn't really marriage at all in any normative or formal since, and that it was primarily a financial institution that had nothing to do with personal love between individual men and woman.

Both of these are revisionist projects of a section of the academic Left whose agenda is to delegitimize and deprivilege traditional Judeo/Christian concepts of marriage and family in the service of "transformative" politics and social change. In other words, its point is to legitimize nontraditional forms of cohabitation or sexual paring, such as cohabitation and, particularly, homosexual "marriage".

So, although I agree with his points, I'm sure he will object to my reasons for agreeing. If its any consolation, just being accurate about historical phenomena, apart for any interpretation, is reason enough to correct Harmony's tendentious rendition of the historical record. The Internet is chock full of information about marriage customs, rituals, and attitudes (to the degree that substantive knowledge is available) about marriage in numerous ancient cultures. What you will find as you peruse them is that some of Harmony's claims are in fact true--at some times, in some ages, among some peoples, under certain conditions. You will also find marriage in the ancient world that parallels those of recent centuries. Its a bit more complex than Harmony makes it out to be as she defends the glories of the sixties.
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Post by _Moniker »

Here's an article I stumbled across today:

Is Your Sex Life Normal


http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,319689,00.html
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Post by _Gazelam »

From Monikers link:

— How long is the average sexual encounter? According to a Psychology Today article, it’s 3 to 10 minutes.



that's just sad.
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Post by _Coggins7 »

What do you mean "all classes of Romans married freely"? At the very least the elites almost always went into arranged strategic marriages by the paterfamilii of the noble families.


I mean simply they got married. Marriage among the lower classes were not necessarily arranged, and could be entered into simply by the consent of the parties, as Harmony said. My problem with her account is that the so called "free" marriages of this sort were still considered marriage, even if less formal than those of the elites, and still involved public anouncement, certain protocols and formalities. It wasn't a parallel form of "premarital cohabitation" as Harmony put it. When one claimed to be married, or announced publically that they were, they were married. The legalities of the matter were not as they are now, but the contractual aspect of marriage, even if informal by our standards, still existed.

And yes, slaves, peasants, or commoners got married, at least in ancient Rome. No, they didn't take out a marriage license and go to a wedding and a reception unless they could afford it (in which case they would not have been commoners or peasants) But it was public and it did involve the families and community (excepting slaves of course). It was not modern "cohabitation' in any sense. The idea that only elites got married in ancient Israel is positively bizarre. The idea the common people didn't marry throughout the last 2,000 years throughout Christian Europe is a littel odd as well.
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Post by _huckelberry »

Coggins, you seem to have understood my comments about marriange in the past perfectly well. I was starting to wonder if I was speaking Enlish when I wrote them. Is it odd that I have no inclination to disagree with your observation on that matter?

However I do see social change as a very mixed affair when looking at any specific time such as the sixities. I think it quite possible to paint the sixities as awful and speak truthful things. One could paint a picture with charlie manson being the guiding light and not be entirely unrealistic. However such picures see only part of a very complicated picture which moves in a number of different directions at the same time.

Perhaps I should clarify my comments about prostitution. I did not intend to say that anything happening in the 1960s was causal of that decrease in protitution to which I referred but that changes in the 60 were subsequent events. The prostitution I was refering to was that common in the 19 and early decades of the 20 century in the western US. I was not intending to speak to world wide trends. I am aware of European prostitution but have no interest in visiting to see. Are thre counter trends,yes. Does prostitution still continue, yes. I might even note that the change I was referring to was more caused by Christian reform efforts that had their start in the 19th century and did not loose momentum untill mid 20 th century than by any 60s movement. Perhaps I would have been clearer if I said Hefner spoke debilitating tripe.

Perhaps it is reasonable to note the cival rights movement started earlier than the 1960s. it was late in the 1960 and into the 1970 when it made enough traction to really change American attitudes and really change relationships. The late 60s saw violent distortions of the cival rights movement. I think those hurt but did not destroy the progress made.
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Post by _Roger Morrison »

VERY interesting thread. Thanks to all major 'players'. As well those who toss in some spice, Moniker, Bond ;-)

Apart from the historicity of "marriage" in its several definitions, it is obvious that humans engage each other in "relationships". Sexual and otherwise. The boundries within which relationships are made, and exist, are more culturally defined than not.

That cultures are essentially tribal in nature, the norms often are not universally accepted from one tribe to another, or even between tribal members, as Harmony & Coggins exemplify. :-) BUT, there are common-goods, and common-bads to be found in all cultures that serve their needs well or otherwise.

It seems "Marriage", however it is defined, possibly worked better in the past than now?? Particularly in the USA. There seems to be some agreement in this, as stats are listed, and cries to safe guard the "traditional family" are heard from various establiments. Assuming such unsuccess, is it possible that reassessment of that tradition/institution is essential?? That the "traditional family" of one era does not transpose well to another??

It seems to me arguements, and/or discussion concerning the past, should be expansive rather than nit-pickingly entrenching. Change is inevitable. How that change is understood and accomodated is preferred to it being misunderstood, and resisted.

Generally speaking, the latter being more the norm of the tribe than the former. "...Looking for love in all the wrong places..." some western lament of decades ago that is probably more insightful than most sermons. Begging the question "why?" The answer simplistically, "failure of the traditional family." IMSCO. Warm regards, Roger
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