Who is Wade Englund?

[_wenglund]

The good news is, things like this thread are only harmful if one takes it seriously and gives it a care.

Yeah, I quickly skimmed though most of this thread (it does bring back some fun memories), and if there's one obvious fact to be gleaned, it's that Wade "you're all a bunch of neanderthals" Englund doesn't care about it at all.

I mean, anyone can see that, right?

If they can't see it, then perhaps it is time for them to get re-fitted wih a working sense of humor--either that or get their projection devise repaired. LOL

Thanks, -Wade Englund-

[_Buffalo]

If they can't see it, then perhaps it is time for them to get re-fitted wih a working sense of humor--either that or get their projection devise repaired. LOL

Thanks, -Wade Englund-

You need to work harder at appearing nonchalant. Let the Fonze be your mentor.

[_Some Schmo]

If they can't see it, then perhaps it is time for them to get re-fitted wih a working sense of humor--either that or get their projection devise repaired. LOL

Really? Typing that made you LOL? Who is it you're saying needs their working sense of humor "re-fitted?"

Yes, we can all tell you couldn't care less about this thread. It becomes more and more obvious with every one of your posts.

Thanks, -Some Schmo-

[_Doctor CamNC4Me]

Hello,

Perhaps Mr. Englund could enlighten us? What was his issue, and how, exactly, did a Court of Love create the mechanism through which he stopped being a repeat offender?

V/R
Doc

[_Some Schmo]

Hello,

Perhaps Mr. Englund could enlighten us? What was his issue, and how, exactly, did a Court of Love create the mechanism through which he stopped being a repeat offender?

V/R
Doc

Isn't it obvious? They let him expense a butt plug.

[_Daniel2]

Isn't it obvious? They let him expense a butt plug.

I think that comment was unnecessaryily rude, Some Schmo. Not only does it feel unnecessarily demeaning to Wade, but, at the risk of sounding a bit over-sensative, myself (?), it potentially reads as a condescending phrase towards gay men, in general.

I'm by no means in agreement with Wade's views nor his style of communication, and I even understand how his attitude engenders a feeling of reactiveness and/or hostility in others. Even so, I'm saddened (perhaps even sickened, a bit) to see the ongoing onslaught of negativity about and towards him in this thread.

I've always been a strong believer in the addage that we can attract more bees with honey than with vinegar (of course, even honey won't work with all bees... but that doesn't mean you have to go on a wild, ultimately fruit-less--pun intended ;)--goose-chase to squash those errant bees into oblivion).

My view,
Darin

[_Doctor CamNC4Me]

Hello Darin,

It warms the cockles of one's heart to see you defend the very person who holds himself and you (at least publicly) with so much disdain. The reason why people are aggressing on him is because he's an asshole, bigot, and hypocrite.

If he'd just stop being those things then this thread would simply... *poof* Disappear...

V/R
Dr. Cam

[_Daniel2]

Hello Darin,

It warms the cockles of one's heart to see you defend the very person who holds himself and you (at least publicly) with so much disdain. The reason why people are aggressing on him is because he's an asshole, bigot, and hypocrite.

If he'd just stop being those things then this thread would simply... *poof* Disappear...

V/R
Dr. Cam

I don't deny that Wade harbors obvious contempt for those who embrace their homosexuality. My personal disagreements with him on this (and moreso, the other) board are no secret. It's understandable, Doctor CamNC4Me, that you have arrived at the characterizations you have of him, and I don't deny that I would agree with at least some of them.

In fact, I don't even deny that he may (or may not) feel a need to fight his own inner demons over this (or a similar) issue.

However, Wade has admitted to some disorders. Having some experience with family members who suffer from mental disorders, I can say that it's highly unlikely that returning hostililty with hostility will get anyone--least of all, Wade, himself--anywhere constructive. In fact, if he is battling his own attractions towards members of the same sex (something which I have no idea whether or not he is), he may very well welcome the verbal onslight he's receiving as some sort of personal chastizement or self-flaggilation over the issue... It would seem that the attention he receives seems to be feeding some sort of need in him (and doesn't attention do something for each of us--even if it's negative?).

Who am I to judge...? (God knows I'm not a psychiatrist).

Whatever the case may be, Wade adds a lot to the discussion, whether here or at MDD. Others who are reading learn quite a bit, because of his discussions and example--for good or ill. I'm glad he participates, both for his own and others' sakes. Perhaps, with time, he will continue to learn, grow, and soften as I hope we all do. In the meantime, message boards thrive on discussion of opposing viewpoints. After all, there must needs be opposition in all things, else how could we learn to recognize the light from the dark? ;)

My signature over on MDD would seem to be appropriate, here:

Have compassion for everyone you meet, even if they don’t want it. What seems conceit, bad manners, or cynicism is always a sign of things no ears have heard, no eyes have seen. You do not know what wars are going on down there where the spirit meets the bone.

—Miller Williams, "The Ways We Touch"

My view,
Darin

[_beastie]

You are right, Darin. I apologize for my part. It's hard to resist piling on Wade when he's accumulated such an unpleasant history.

[_EAllusion]

Isn't it obvious? They let him expense a butt plug.

Was that necessary? There's ways of chiding Wade about his anti-gay rhetoric and the homosexual vibe he gives off without resorting to this kind of thing.