Mary wrote:I do have a certain respect for Ron. He fought for his kids. He didn't crease under extreme pressure from a giant corporation or Mormon royalty who did their darndest to discredit him. If he were my dad, I would have nothing but respect for him for not giving up on me, for supporting me and for believing in me.
As for the possibility that Ron sexually abused his own children, given that his wife and kids acknowledge that he hasn't, then even broaching the subject with speculation is utterly ridiculous.
The daughter shows all the signs, even by admission of her grandfather, (who states she was promiscuous with him at age 6), of having been sexualised by someone. Most likely candidate - the grandfather. If she learned how to please grandpa by wiggling on his lap, with no thought that she was doing anything inappropriate then her behaviour was understandable. (This actually happened to my friend who at age 4 attempted to give her father oral sex in the swimming pool in front of everyone, because that made him happy - he slapped her and told her it was wrong - can you imagine her confusion when on previous occasions it was not only not wrong but the ultimate way to make daddy happy and to love her).
Though to a lesser scale - inappropriate touching by grandpa around the genital area and *tickling the grandaughter's legs* to the extent he gets sexually aroused. That's abuse, that's the sexualizing of a little girl.
She needs justice, an apology, anything, but what she got was further labelling. Disgusting. Well, done Ron for being on her side despite all your own issues, and well done for continuing to fight for her even though she is now an adult, and married.
From memory, corrections and additions welcome:
1. Pace report comes out in 1991. Karren has immediate access to it.
2. Karren's daughter demonstrates pre-sexualized behavior with her grandfather. (Late 1990s?)
3. Several years pass that give Karren enough sense of stability in his marriage that his wife's filing of divorce papers will come as a surprise.
4. Karren's wife goes on a long trip with family. (2006?)
5. Karren receives his wife's surprise divorce filing. (2006)
6. Karren immediately threatens his wife saying she will lose the kids if she divorces him.
7. Karren files accusations of child sexual abuse against Mikelsen in response to the divorce filing.
8. Karren's wife files a request for temporary relief asking for an evaluation of Karren's fitness as a parent and money to pay the bills (the "affidavits").
9. Karren's daughter remembers her grandfather sexually abusing her (6 months after "affidavits").
10. Karren makes covert recording of his ex-wife and her attorney and uses the recording to leverage primary custody.
11. Family conflict continues, ten years pass.
12. Mormon media moment arises. Opportunity to address child abuse publicly and be listened to arises.
12. Karren makes public accusation against Mikelsen and says his daughter is going to publicly accuse Mikelsen as well.
14. Karren builds the stage to make the claim that his divorce was a conspiracy put together by Mikelsen and Scott using his ex-wife's motions for temporary orders (the "affidavits") and evidence that his ex-wife's father paid for the divorce to support that conspiracy. Karren brings up the 1991 Pace report during his public accusations.
My questions:
1) How would the fact that Karren had access to and believed in the Pace report affect his thinking post-1991?
2) If Karren believed in the report and believed it had veracity, how might that have affected his perception of what was happening when he found out about the possibility that his daughter demonstrated presexualized behavior?
3) Why did Karren wait to mention anything about the presexualized behavior prior to his wife's divorce filing several years later?
4) Why is Karren trying to make it look like his wife's temporary filings were "affidavits" used against him and that he was a victim of Mikelsen paying for the divorce when he filed the first accusations and kept money from his ex-wife forcing her to go to her father for help? Why is he trying to paint a picture of a conspiracy?
It looks to me like Karren is going to try to provide evidence of the Pace report. He is going to try to make the claim that while his ex-wife was on a trip, her father and Scott did something to her that made her choose to divorce him. Then, he is going to say that they did that kind of stuff to his daughter, too, and is asking his daughter to provide the witness he needs.
Some more questions:
1) If Karren believes the Pace report, then why didn't he do something about it prior to his ex-wife's divorce filing?
2) Since it seems everything was hunky dory until his ex-wife filed, and he believes that actions could have been taken against his ex-wife and children prior to the filing, then was he complicit in those actions until he was served divorce papers?
3) What information are we missing about the fight between Karren and Mikelsen that might explain why Karren waited until divorce papers were filed to take action on the matter of the safety of his children?
4) Why are we supposed to believe that Mikelsen controls what his daughter does and believes, but Karren doesn't control what his daughter does and believes?
I don't have the information, of course. But I don't think it's unreasonable, if one is going to take the position that the Pace report is accurate, that based on the story Karren has told us, that if Mikelsen is guilty then Karren is also guilty. That's what the Pace report is about: conspiracy. Karren is the one painting conspiracies.
And even more questions:
1) So is this all hogwash or not?
2) What's Karren's real incentive here?
3) Is Karren so unable to communicate effectively (because of high-functioning autism or another factor) that he's saying something real and his message is lost in his inability to communicate or is he just as guilty as anyone else?
4) Is he just unwell? If he is unwell, is he unwell because he is also a victim?
And what the hell is the Pace report really?
If Karren wants to paint conspiracy, he paints himself into it.