The Nehor wrote:
She at least seems to treat the baby as a doll/experiment in social engineering. I've known a few very bright kids. They get that way generally by being crippled somewhere else. Some of this might come from nurture. From what I've read this kind of child-rearing comes from a sense of missed entitlement on the part of the parents. They feel that they weren't raised in such a way to maximize their own potential so they compensate with their child. On the bright side unless the mother is REALLY dedicated to this program it will probably fall apart. Particularly if they have another child in the next few years. Terrible twos combined with a baby needing attention. Yeah.....probably going to lose the flash cards.
I know if I was in the hospital in that situation I would be breaking out the consecrated oil, probably start fasting, and spend time with the child, not want to go back to a kiddie theme park. This is a little snide but I suspect that anyone who wants to have their wedding at a theme park probably shouldn't have kids. ;)
Might be some truth in this Nehor. My son has a disability and is ever so slightly autistic. (A little bit further down the AS than most of us) I often wondered if that is why he is so happy continually learning about scientific subjects. His thirst for knowledge is unquenchable and his achievement levels in the subject are way beyond his years. Having said that, the world is made up of all sorts. I don't believe that everyone is even supposed to be totally well rounded. A person who builds muscle for strength, is probably not going to be able to run long distances. It makes for interesting people.
Children who are truly genius (and there are a very few, and my son isn't one of them) seem to be able to pick reading, writing etc up with little effort from the parents. Genius doesn't also necessarily equate into later achievement either. There are some good studies on that. Development also can go in fits and starts. So a child that is behind when they are 7 may jump way ahead when they are 13.... Development isn't always steady in my opinion.
Having said all that Ruth Lawrence who graduated from Oxford at 13 was tutored by her father from the age of 5. Which just shows what one on one teaching with a knowledgable elder can do.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruth_Lawrence
To each their own I suppose, when it comes to these matters.
GIMR great to see you posting again. Hope you are feeling better, and glad that the baby managed to survive the parents naivity. Hopefully experience will wisen them up a little. I had to wait a long time for my first child, so am probably too much the other way in terms of over-anxiousness. My son is about to go on a weeks trip away, and I am just about out of my mind with worry. He's only 9. All my mother instincts are saying he shouldn't be going, because it's my job to keep an eye on him and make sure he is okay all the time. His teachers this year are brilliant people and brilliant mothers, he wants to go, and my husband thinks it would be great for him....sigh.... Can't wait till the 18th Jan, when he will be back and I can relax. Until then, I shall be wandering around like a zombie and coming on boards like this to keep my mind off of things....
Mary