Ray A wrote:Well I'll throw another opinion here. When you get old, and you're no longer driven by testosterone, you realise that the only true meaningful relationship is a monogamous one, with the person you love. If you don't find it, then resort to imagination.
Being 'old' I'm not sure that I agree whole heartedly, Ray. Living in the "older" circle--65 t0 85--where you suggest "testoserone" no longer "drives", let me respectfully, and gratefully, suggest, "it keeps healthy seniors coasting."
After the death of a spouse, often their is little want, or need, to remarry. But the desire for companionship and affection can remain, and is satisfied by relationships that serve that purpose, without vows that were more purposeful in child rearing years.
"Moving-in" might work for some. "Going-steady," when each has their own turn-key accomodations that can be locked while travel and holidays are enjoyed, with mutual respect and appreciation, is one of the better kept secrets of sensible-senior-life. No guilt. Simply the enjoyment of the "Golden Years" as one chooses. Yes, they can be "Golden."
Roger
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