Elphaba wrote:Hi Madison!
Madison54 wrote:He's now completely inactive and knows the truth about the church but it started when Monson took over. He always believed that the Lord would never allow him to be president.
What had he thought would happen? Didn't he realize Monson was next in line?
He honestly believed that the Lord would "remove" him (he'd die). That sounds crazy now to even write this....but it's what he believed.
Elphaba wrote:Regarding your children, that must be so painful. How old are they? Are they still at home, or grown and gone? Is your husband still a believer? How does he feel about your disbelief?
My two oldest are married (to the truest, bluest Mormons you could imagine....sigh). They really are angry that I no longer believe or attend and I can't blame them.....they only strongly believe all the things
I taught them and then
I leave?
My husband is on the same page as I'm on..... and I'm very grateful for that!
Elphaba wrote:I am lucky in that my son saw through the Church quite a while ago, and while he and I are not terribly close, that is one area where we agree completely. I had left the Church by the time I had my daughter, and today she is an atheist like me, which is a huge relief to me.
I envy you. I hope every day is the day my two oldest will wake up.....otherwise I will not be attending my grandkid's weddings, etc. At least my two youngest are out of the church and my son who's 19 has no desire to serve a mission.
Elphaba wrote:My family is very TBM, starting with my bigoted and racist mother. Unfortunately, my brothers and sister are more and more like her with every passing year. While it's nice that my children don't believe in the Church, they are grown and out of the house, and I don't see them much. I am disabled and unable to get out a lot, so the only people I really do see are my family, and honestly, anymore, I can't stand to be around them. They waste all their time focusing on a ridiculous boogeyman (Satan), while committing the truly evil acts of bigotry and racism, particularly with regard to gays and blacks. I despise those attitudes, even to the point that it feels like a physical blow when I hear them, and have spent my entire life speaking out against them. But I just don't have the energy to confront it anymore. So, I stay away, and it is lonely.
I keep wishing just one of them would wake up so I would have someone in the family to talk to, and every year, they get worse than ever. I'm already strategizing on how to be unavailable at Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Wow...I can relate. Most of my extended family is TBM. It puts a barrier between us that is so uncomfortable for everyone involved and I hate being around them now. Oh...but "Families Can Be Together Forever" right? (Unless one of you leaves the church....ha!) Religion causes a great deal of division (amongst families and nations and.....so on....).