Alzheimer's is indeed tough to handle. Before I knew, she seemed so anxious about something, but it took her a while to tell me.
My mother was just beginning to explore Mormonism-related issues, but her heart disease interfered, and she had to give it up. He doctor was having awful problems with her blood pressure, so I called, and told her that part of the problem was cultural. They got that under control, then the Alzheimer's stepped in. So I guess I took over. She told me, in one of our last conversations, to hurry up with the book.

I am still settling in after the trip.
I had good conversations with her sister and Dad's sister this weekend. Dad's family is 95% behind me. The other 5% is a sad case, which we laugh about (think whyme). Mom's family is more detached.
Dad's sister is still going strong, and is an exception, but the diseases of age can be very hard on a family. I am glad I got to interview her, she gave me some clues. Things can get very fragmented in a family that runs to late marriage.
Mormonism is really at a disadvantage with such a rigid ladder to the top. Pluses and minuses for us, I guess. They are less open to change, but a gerontocracy can mean ineffective leadership.
at least you may not die confused and terrified, as opposed to just terrified in a reasonable kind of way.
