Need some advice

[_Yoda]

I wonder if acting as adults is too much to ask?

I'm wondering if you are really wondering, or is it more that you're wondering in the parental wondering sense in that you're not really wondering but your already know your answer and aren't wondering at all.

You're right. LOL It comes from being a Mom for the past 22 years. :-)

OK, guys...can we give Outcast a chance? We may have completely scared her off.

I don't know why we have to start a new thread. Let's just move forward.

What adivce would you give her, assuming that she is not a troll?

My advice stands. I think that she needs to put the past behind her, and move forward. If she really does want to continue in the Church, and she likes this boyfriend, and wants to marry him, then she accepts the path of chastity and monogamy to her future husband. Don't worry about venturing into the past and go forward in that vein. Thoughts from others?

[_Yoda]

by the way: I heard you sing on another thread. LOVELY :)

Thanks, Ceeboo! :-)

[_LDSToronto]

I'm wondering if you are really wondering, or is it more that you're wondering in the parental wondering sense in that you're not really wondering but your already know your answer and aren't wondering at all.

You're right. LOL It comes from being a Mom for the past 22 years. :-)

OK, guys...can we give Outcast a chance? We may have completely scared her off.

I don't know why we have to start a new thread. Let's just move forward.

What adivce would you give her, assuming that she is not a troll?

My advice stands. I think that she needs to put the past behind her, and move forward. If she really does want to continue in the Church, and she likes this boyfriend, and wants to marry him, then she accepts the path of chastity and monogamy to her future husband. Don't worry about venturing into the past and go forward in that vein. Thoughts from others?

Good to see you've lightened up, Liz. Listen, if you want to have a serious discussion about whatever it is that you saw as serious in the OP, I say start a new thread and I'll be more than happy to participate as a grown-up. And if Outcast wants to come back, by all means, come on back and set us straight (or gay).

But please don't just step onto the field and take our ball away because we weren't playing the game you wanted to play.

Please, mum?
;)

H.

[_Quasimodo]

What adivce would you give her, assuming that she is not a troll?

My advice stands. I think that she needs to put the past behind her, and move forward. If she really does want to continue in the Church, and she likes this boyfriend, and wants to marry him, then she accepts the path of chastity and monogamy to her future husband. Don't worry about venturing into the past and go forward in that vein. Thoughts from others?

Cool. Let's assume that outcast is legitimate. The question then becomes, can she commit to a male husband for ever, or will her attraction to women become an irresistible force later in her life?

[_Jersey Girl]

Well lessee.....

A young woman makes a sincere request for relationship advice because she wants to be honest and tell her new guy that she is bi-sexual and the testosterone spiked mongrels on the thread read that to mean she's available for a three-way.

Right. Got it.

*rolls eyes*

I can't think of any other possible interpretation.

Unless she's not real, but why would anyone make that stuff up?

H.

LDST,

Let me interpret "the written word" for you or "girl", you choose...

I was previously an inactive Mormon, but recently I went to the bishop and am in the process of repenting of my grievous sins.

She is in the process of REPENTING her GRIEVOUS SINS.

I started going to a singles' ward at the invitation of a friend that is visiting for the summer. He is a convert to the Church and served a mission. I have feelings for him

She met a guy she likes.

and I am just wondering, when is a good time to tell someone that you are in a relationship with that you are bisexual and have had relationships with women before?

She wants to disclose her sexual past to him. PAST.

Is there ever a good time to do that? I am also wondering whether the doctrine that homosexuals shouldn't get married in the Church also applies to bisexuals. Thoughts?

She is asking for HELP.

Not three-way jokes. HELP.

[Guest]

OK, guys...can we give Outcast a chance? We may have completely scared her off.

Fair enough!

What adivce would you give her

(Starting over) :)
Hi Outcast,

Please know that I am not (nor have I ever been) LDS, so please weigh that as you read/measure/value my response.

Although your OP was a little confusing (I am not sure if you are just interested in this LDS guy, dating this LDS guy, or getting serious with this LDS guy) but assuming that you are either getting serious or considering the next step (engaged?), I would strongly suggest that you be completely honest with him about your past, your present, as well as your future dreams/plans. After all, if things do move forward with the two of you, it will be your combined future/dreams that need to have a foundation built largely upon trust, truth, and mutual understanding about who each other really are, came from, and hope to go to as one.

As far as telling the bishop about your bisexual experiences (with as much respect as I could possibly display over a keyboard), I would firmly suggest that this is highly personal and private information. It is also my opinion that it is entirely none of his business or concern.

Peace,
Ceeboo

[_moksha]

I wonder if acting as adults is too much to ask?

Good point. An alternate point is what would Will Schryver say?

[_Bond James Bond]

To the OP:

I recommend being straightforward about it asap, maybe not the first date (if that time has come and gone) but if you start calling exclusive then I would. Now if it's still an active thought I would admit it sooner rather than later before you get into a relationship that could explode with such news.

Also to the board:

*bucket of cool water*

[_zeezrom]

I guess I should apologize to the OP author in case she was offended by anything I said.

[_ludwigm]

I know LDSToronto, Ceeboo, Zee and others would agree that it might be a good idea to share some of these stories here, or if you don't feel comfortable, you can share them in the Writer's Workshop Forum.

Outcast, just remember, we are all here to help.

Perhaps photos would also help.