Since Cicero mentioned what was posted on RfM regarding John Dehlin, I read a few of the comments over there. I would be interested in examining this critique:
Anon for this from RfM wrote:Posting anon because I've been ridiculed in this phorum for criticizing
JD in the past. This time I am only going to focus on his own words.
Mostly.
I read the transcript to save myself the tearful
delivery. Five pages of cognitive dissonance at its finest. The author's
emotional connections interfere with his capacity to process and
evaluate the facts he cannot deny, and his emotional links with church
and family keep him from leaving. I wondered, when he said he didn't
want to see his kids sitting in church alone, why he would have them to
sit there at all. He may recognize the elitism but in the end he wants
to be part of the "0.5 of 1%" that what passes for his God loves and
directs through a corporation sole.
I do not understand how a
mature adult can attribute both his virtues and his vices on an external
structure of any kind, and evidence of that mindset appears in his
words.
First the virtues. He says, "I stay because the church continually reminds and motivates me to try harder to be a good
father, and a good husband. And I need these reminders."
Really?
He can't look around his house and remind himself? The faces of his
loved ones and the love of his children cannot provide the internal
motivation for him to be "a good" anything? Such motivation should come
from within a person. And any human situation can provide a reminder to
be "good." That perception should not depend on anything external.
And
now the vices. This sentence was the only one in bold, so I assume it
is the key point in his litany of arguments. "I stay because I still
love this church. As dysfunctional, as broken and as misguided as it
behaves sometimes – it is no more dysfunctional, broken or misguided
than I am – if I’m being honest with myself." The church "behaves" and
"I am". That seems so twisted to me. He seems to be able to say he is
broken, misguided, and dysfunctional, though the insitution merely
*behaves* that way *sometimes*. If he were to make an exact comparison,
he would have said the church "is" those things or he "does" them,
behaves that way sometimes. It is as if retaining his membership
facilitates his identifying himself with those qualities--a strange form
of projection. And an abdication of his responsibility to himself and
his family and his community.
I found it interesting, a strange
affirmation of his willingness to identify himself in these terms and to
perpetuate those qualities, to see them amplified around him. It is as
if he is unwilling to be responsible for his own virtues and vices--and
to determine his own course of action without the dictates of his tribe
and maybe his own conscience.
Someone in his chosen profession
should have the capacity of self-governance to some degree in order to
counsel others to do the same. Or maybe I don't get what therapy is
about.
Which brings me to a final observation about people who selectively invoke God and Christ as exemplars.
Jesus
is the gold standard. He threw the money changers out of the temple.
The people who run the church have blatantly revealed themselves to be
money changers. Wouldn't it be most Christlike to run the bastards out
of the holy spaces they have set up as a cash commodity--ten percent for
"exaltation"?
And Jesus was willing to give his life for the
truth he spoke. Willing to be nailed to a cross rather than take back
what he said. What's a little excommunication for apostasy in exchange
for the integrity of one's words and actions?
Which is why reason
is one thing and belief is another. And when they conflict, people find
reasons to justify belief at the expense of reason.
Although I disagreed with most of what this poster said, and I will get into details later, one thing he did say struck an interesting chord with me:
Jesus
is the gold standard. He threw the money changers out of the temple.
The people who run the church have blatantly revealed themselves to be
money changers. Wouldn't it be most Christlike to run the bastards out
of the holy spaces they have set up as a cash commodity--ten percent for
"exaltation"?
The whole bit about being a full tithe payer to attend the temple, and having that be the final "end-all, be-all" of the temple interview has always bothered me. It seems like you can fall slightly short on a lot of the other questions, but write a check and everything is OK. The same in reverse. You can be stalwart and answer every questions sincerely in the affirmative, but if you have fallen on hard times, and have been unable to pay your tithing in full, you are denied the blessings of the temple.
When my daughter got married last summer, we were in the scary predicament of being behind on our tithing. We really were not sure if we were going to be able to catch up. We managed, but it wasn't easy. The price was whether or not we would be able to see our daughter sealed. There is just something not quite right about that, in my opinion.