TD, thanks for your clarifications and a little lesson in pre-history. I had read those things but your post was a reminder. Doesn't quite fit the Garden of Eden story, but that's mythology anyway.
truth dancer wrote:Similarly, the urge to screw every female that walks by was at one time obviously beneficial (and still is in most animals). But over time, it became clear offspring benefitted by having a father hence male parental investment and the bonding of males with females. TODAY, if a man decides to ^%$# every woman who walks by, he is not acting in the best interest of offspring or community. Does that make sense?
No, he certainly isn't. Especially if she's someone else's wife.
I'm NOT in any way suggesting we have to change our biology. I'm saying nature will hold onto the things that work and those things that are no longer necessary will diminish and disappear. I'm saying what is hardwired in animals is less so in conscious humans. You agree with this?
It appears so, since humans are also the only species which is aware of forthcoming death, so we obviously have some cranial advantage, if you can call foreseeing your own eventual death "advantage". We've evolved beyond animals significantly, yes, and I guess there will be more evolution, which some people seem to think the Indigo children are already doing. I'm not sure how they feel about marriage/relationships.
I very much wonder about the future of relationships. OTOH, there is no longer a need for them. Women do not need to have a relationship with a man to have children or provide for them. Men no longer need women to be sexually stimuated and release seed! (Trying to keep it PG)! :-) So, the NEED for relationship seems to me, will diminish over time.
OTOH, in my opinion, it is an amazing ability for humans to partner long term and through intimacy new emotions can emerge and a emotional bond can develop unlike anything in our known universe. The intense sharing and compassion that 'potentially' come through long term partnering is certainly an advancement in the human. in my opinion, this relationship comes NOT from necessity but from a depth of desire which is certainly transformational.
So, in terms of today, again, I'm suggesting that men who have moved beyond the primitive urges are rare but more and more I am aware of those who have done just this. It is not a moral thing, in is a deepening. It is not repression but release. Not a fight against Satan, but a moving beyond something less rewarding, to something much more meaningful, fulfilling, pleasurable and enjoyable.
For those who find the right partner, perhaps. I look at my youngest daughter now, she has had several boyfriends but no desire for long term relationships. I think this is the trend with many young people. Relationships can be rewarding, but I see so many difficulties in them, arguments, disagreements, and when they've butted heads for too long, they split. People are complex with varying needs and desires, and to find that rewarding long term relationship seems one hell of a challenge. I know a lot about my daughter's friends as well, all teenagers, and they're not by and large interested in long term relationships. I kind of wonder if we're going in the direction you hope. I do have many Mormon friends though who have had long term marriages, one was on the verge of divorce before they joined the church, and 30 years later they're still together, so I think religion does have a stabilising factor in some marriages, but what I see in society mainly is a trend to individualism rather than commitment.
However, last time I checked I saw the LDS US divorce rate is actually slightly higher than the rest of the US, and Evangelicals have an even higher rate of divorce. So I would say that even common religious beliefs isn't keeping this ship afloat.
I think you have a noble ideal, TD, and long term emotional bonding and commitment is a good thing, and good for society, but looking at the realities, it looks like Paradise Lost, and to me it seems society is going in the opposite direction to what you're hoping for. But that's just my take.