wenglund wrote:guy sajer wrote:Mister Scratch wrote: I think I get what you are saying, Wade. You are saying that it is okay for people to leave the Church, and to say that the Church "isn't true," or "isn't what it claims to be," but they just need to say it in a nice way.
From whence comes the requirement that leaving the Mormon Church must be done in a "nice" way? Who imposes this standard? Who has the right to impose this standard?
Believing Mormons appear in many cases to assume a sense of entitlement. They grudgingly grant you the right to leave (though not without attributing it to character flaw), but then they demand that you be nice about it. Why? Well, because it's THEIR church. Go ahead and say what you want about whatever else, but not about OUR church. You must be nice to us; don't speak badly about our church.
BS. If I, or anyone, leave the Mormon Church, we has all the right in the world to openly, freely, and honestly express our opinions and our experiences regarding the doctrines, the people, the history, and in many cases these opinions and experiences are not nice.
Get over it; not everybody loves Mormonism. Many people acutely dislike it. Some hate it. Just because its YOUR church is totally irrelevant. I, and anyone else, have no obligation whatsoever to be nice regarding our views about Mormonism. In fact, one might argue, if there's an ethical obgliatin, and we think the the Mormon Church is, on balance, a harmful cult, don't we possess some obligation to at least warn those we love about it, if not also those who are flirting with getting hooked into it?
I prefer civility on the whole, but sometimes it's appropriate to call a spade a spade and not be nice about it. It's high time for believers to let go of this silly sense of entitlement they have that the rest of the world owes them respect, for no other reason than they fervently believe in something, regardless of how silly or mistaken the belief is, or how right they think it is.
The same can and has been said of ex-Mormons and unbelievers--but to what end or benefit?
I am not trying to deny people their anxst, their vitriol, their vengence, or their victimology, etc. I am simply suggesting a workable alternative. We each have a choice. We don't have to wallow in self-pity, or gnash our teeth, or wax self-righteous and judgemental and hyper-critical, or contribute to the cycle of violence and human degredation. We can choose to devote our efforts to constructive endevours that uplift and enrich the human condition, and enable the satifying of the critical human need for mutual love, value, and respect.....or not.
Thanks, -Wade Englund-
The irony (and hypocrisy) of what you are saying is that YOUR OWN POST is a an example of you being "self-righteous and judgmental." You claim to admire R. Dutcher's post insofar as it basically remains mum on the issue of doctrine or Church truth claims.... Does that mean that you also wish DCP, Pahoran, Bill Hamblin, and other outspoken Mopologists would "shut up" and stop contributing to the "cycle....of human degradation"?