PP wrote:Look Liz, I am not sterotyping YOUR family.
Thank you for saying that. PP, as Jersey Girl mentioned on the other "PP Pointers" thread I started, it's not your facts, it's your delivery. You asked me a question about the age I would allow my children to make their own decisions regarding coming to Church. I took your question seriously, and gave you an honest, open answer, and you came back with a crack about my daughter getting married to the first RM who came along because I had mentioned that she was still active. Do you see how that can cause a Mom to put her bristles up? ;)
After talking with you more and via PM, I understand now that you were speaking in generalizations. However, since you bothered to ask a question, at least acknowledge the answer next time instead of going into another tirade regarding Mormonism's cultural generalizations.
I do understand what you are saying about the YW program. Frankly, there are a lot of things about the current YW program that I find creepy. When the girls stand and recite the "Young Women values", I do find that very cultish. It actually makes my blood run cold every time I hear them do it. Frankly, neither of my girls are that active in the YW program because they are so busy with school activities which tend to conflict (drama, music, sports).
I am a product of "succumbing to peer pressure" to a certain degree. I met my husband at BYU. We got married when we were both 22. I was scared to death of being an old maid. LOL That seems so silly now. I love my husband and don't regret the marriage.....but I do think we married too young. We were both still in school.
I had to drop out of college after my oldest daughter was born because I had gall bladder disease, and between the surgery and a new baby, my health wouldn't allow me to continue. I went back to school when I was 35...completed what was left of my Bachelor's in Music and also completed my Master's degree in Computer Science. My girls were middle school then, and I think it was important for them to see that education was important to me. I have counseled them not to make some of the same mistakes I made, and get their education while they are young. However, I have also made it clear that it is NEVER too late to get your education, so if something does happen, it is a do-able goal, and something you should never give up on.
As far as my daughter attending USU in Logan is concerned.....there are a few factors we took into consideration. First of all, she has a strong interest in Theater, and USU has an excellent Theater program. She is going in on an acting scholarship. My brother is a professional opera singer, and has sung several tenor leads on contract with Michael Ballum's opera company in Logan last year. You would like my brother. He truly IS a Jack Mormon. LOL He told me that in Logan, the Church should be called "the Church of Michael Ballum of Latter-Day Saints". LOL Apparently, he has done a lot of financial backing for the community there. At any rate, because of my brother's connections, my daughter has a spot doing an internship with Ballum's opera company next summer, which was part of the draw in us sending her there. Also, my brother said that the young people who graduated from the performance programs at USU were very talented and extremely top-notch. Also, knowing that my daughter is more like me, and laid back as far as religion, my brother said that it would be a good fit because there are not a lot of "Nazi Mormons" there, particularly in the arts.
So you see? I actually have done my homework on this. That's why I was pissed when you made the comment you did. So sue me for taking things personally. I'm a Mom. I tend to do that. ;)
Thanks for the PM. I do understand where you were coming from as well, and as far as I'm concerned, we're good.