KimberlyAnn wrote:
My husband has threatened to leave if I become an atheist but has never threatened to take my kids at all. He wouldn't do that. Also, I have mentioned that other than the religious issue, Tom's a good husband. But, yes, the religious issue is pretty difficult, no doubt.
I must have confused you with someone else saying their husband didn't think their thoughts were appropriate for raising children.
And how is someone supposed to read what you said? You said you were glad you had a husband who wasn't lacking in the smarts department and then, later, mentioned you considered people (like my husband and others) who won't adjust their schema lacking in intellect. Nowhere did you explain what you meant. Nowhere did you mention it had anything to do with anything other than belief in things you and I may consider silly.
I'm thrilled that I don't have a husband that would leave me because I don't believe the same things he does KA. I do believe people that refuse to listen to reason lack intellect. I think your husband is an IDIOT for threatening to leave you and ruin your family because you don't believe in the literal word of the Bible. I'm pretty sure if any man on this board told you that you would have no qualms with it.
I don't really consider Christian beliefs all that silly KA. I don't believe them but understand that some people believe odd things. My point was your marriage and the way he torments you with his beliefs.
I saw your post before you edited it. You said yourself that you knew upon re-reading your posts that they may have been written in a way that could be misconstrued.
Yep, I didn't take much time to think about what I was writing. Believe it or not I really don't spend a lot of time composing here (hard to believe, I know! :D) but I was in chat and on second reading thought it was *off* looking and asked Bond for his opinion. He assured me it was fine and I took his word for it.
It's because they were written that way. I don't know anyone who could reasonably conclude you meant anything other than what I thought you meant. Even Tarski pointed out to you that smart people can believe dumb things. Why did he do that? Because your post read like you were accusing my husband and others who believe like him of lacking in "smarts".
I accuse your husband of being an idiot if he thinks you are not worthy of being his wife if you don't agree with his opinion on the Bible. If you have problems with hearing comments about the intellect and religiosity I think you are on the wrong board. I see people making correlations between intellect and religiosity constantly. I made a comment ONCE and don't care what people think! I do care when someone is unyielding in their position and unable to use reason and contemplate that they may be wrong.
Ask Tarski if he thinks your husband is smart for wanting to leave you because you don't believe in the Bible. I'm pretty sure he would say your husband needs to shift his thoughts if he views his religious views more importantly than his marriage to you. I'd bet my house on that KA.
And no, I have never been purposefully rude to you. If I was rude, it was entirely unintentional and I apologize. Perhaps your rudeness to me was unintentional. I believe you if you say it was, but I will say that I can see no other way of interpreting what you said other than how I interpreted it. If you write so vaguely that someone needs additional *hints* to understand, then perhaps you should be more clear.
KA
It was not my intention to be rude to you. You said I was in a cult when I was younger. I found that to be very insulting. I don't even call LDS a cult and think of that as a pretty extreme thing to say. You've said it a number of times. I think lots of people on here are rude without considering how their words may sting. I am very sorry in this instance that my words upset you. With complete sincerity it was not my intention to say anything to upset you.