I think it comes down to this.
Harmony, you and I are both married to good men.....both of them pretty strong TBM's, correct?
I can only speak for my husband here, since I don't know your husband...but from what you have told me, I'm going to guess that most of what the rest of what I'm going to state is pretty true for your husband as well. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.
My husband is very well-educated...has taught Gospel Doctrine, and held other callings for years. His family is also massively involved in the Church.
He is intelligent, and has studied all elements of the gospel. Are there some things which hold disconnects with him, such as polygamy, progression between kingdoms, exactly how final judgment works, MMM, blacks, women, and the priesthood......YES.
BUT---He simply believes that these issues that don't seem right were somehow not communicated properly, and will be explained in the next life. He believes that as long as we are faithful and keep the commandments to the best of our ability that everything else will fall into place in the next life, and that we shouldn't worry about it.
Entertaining the idea that the Church... i.e. his entire culture and way of life.....is a fraud is unthinkable. There has been too many years of investment.
Dealing with the disconnects, and just not giving them too much thought is much easier.
To be honest...I think that most of the Church leaders feel this way as well. I really don't think there is some "grand conspiracy theory" going on.
Any of this sound familiar in your neck of the woods, Harm?
