You hear the same things from people who join MLMs. "You think I'm stupid for joining!" in my opinion it's about convincing people to critically examine the MLM/religion that they're in. Some MLMs may work for some people, especially the ones who get in early. LDS church works great for the rich well connected families too, the ones who got in early. The families where every son becomes a bishop, stake president, or mission president.
With an MLM I would encourage people to keep track of their expenditures and income, because many MLMs have creative ways to hide the fact that you're not making money. Similarly with the LDS church, I would encourage members to keep track of how much time they spend, how much money they give, and the mental health effects on themselves and their families. If the MLM member is making money, good for them. If the LDS member is happy, good for them. John has said this many times, in the same breath as his argument for informed consent. As long as you know all the tricks that MLMs/LDS uses to keep you in the organization, and you consent to them, then everything is good.
This is really interesting. I like what you have to say here inasmuch as your advocacy of a sober accounting of benefits and costs in life decisions is always a good idea. Of course, everyone will weigh these things differently, as the Public Square article shows. I absolutely hate MLMs. But I am not the kind of person who would really thrive in one. Other people really devote themselves to these things and make a kind of life out of it. It becomes their way of socializing and finding a kind of community. So, they would value it more than I would.
My kids do Taekwondo. It isn’t cheap, but it is a discipline, a physical activity, and the school inculcates principles of good character. If we didn’t value what the school provides, there is no way we would pay the money.
Being LDS is not cheap, but it does have a proportional pricing structure. And, if you are not interested in going to the temple, it is arguably cheaper than it is for those who must keep a temple recommend for whatever reason. The benefit is being part of the LDS community. That is where personal preference kicks in. If you believe in God, and desire a demanding religious life, then the LDS Church is a good option. Greek Orthodox is another good option.
Of course, if you do not believe in God, and you do not put stock in the basic Christian message, then you should really think hard about what it is you are getting or would get out of the LDS Church.
I joined the cult of Apple, so to speak. I spend a lot of money on Apple products, watch YouTube videos on Apple products, and spend hours every day using Apple products. I am always interested in what Apple will come out with next. I get angry when Apple does something I think is stupid, but then I really hated Microsoft Windows. If my situation were different, I would make different choices. Apple can be a frustrating company. Some people would argue it is evil and that I am a horrible person or at least a hypocrite for using its products. For now none of that is dissuading me from typing this post on an iPhone.
The funny thing is that even though I do not tithe, I still do a lot of LDS oriented stuff. I just got back from a couple weeks in Utah, visiting with my LDS relatives and LDS monuments and museums. I also stopped by BYU. Soon I will be speaking at Sunstone (it will be my third Sunstone presentation). I post here most days of the year, and the only reason this place exists is because of the LDS Church.
I honestly have no regrets. It has been a good life. I did not select it in advance, but, damn, have I been lucky. Mormonism was part of my good fortune, in my opinion. I have gotten a lot more out of it than I put in. Right now I am practically a free rider. Of course, I was born in it, so it was always going to be there in my life.
“If they can get you asking the wrong questions, they don’t have to worry about the answers.”~Thomas Pynchon, Gravity’s Rainbow