Scottie wrote:Believe it or not, I met this girl at an LDS dance. And, yes, she is an active Mormon who knows all about my apostasy and my views on religion, but chooses to see the good person I am rather than the priesthood holder I should be. I believe that we will be able to live in a home where we both respect the religious choices that make us both happy.
Oh good luck with that...
You can take a woman out of Mormonism, but you can't take Mormonism out of a woman. The indoctrination runs far too deep. They spend years in programs that teach them that they must marry a priesthood holder, that they must go to the temple, that they MUST bare many children, and most of all, that they must obey.
However, best of luck to both of you. Perhaps you can whittle away at the years and years of indoctrination and bring TRUE freedom to her.
You can take a woman out of Mormonism, but you can't take Mormonism out of a woman. The indoctrination runs far too deep. They spend years in programs that teach them that they must marry a priesthood holder, that they must go to the temple, that they MUST bare many children, and most of all, that they must obey.
However, best of luck to both of you. Perhaps you can whittle away at the years and years of indoctrination and bring TRUE freedom to her.
I really have no desire to whittle away at her, just as I hope she doesn't try to whittle away at me. She can believe whatever she likes. I believe in mutual respect for others beliefs.
If there's one thing I've learned from this board, it's that consensual sex with multiple partners is okay unless God commands it. - Abman
I find this place to be hostile toward all brands of stupidity. That's why I like it. - Some Schmo
You can take a woman out of Mormonism, but you can't take Mormonism out of a woman. The indoctrination runs far too deep. They spend years in programs that teach them that they must marry a priesthood holder, that they must go to the temple, that they MUST bare many children, and most of all, that they must obey.
However, best of luck to both of you. Perhaps you can whittle away at the years and years of indoctrination and bring TRUE freedom to her.
I really have no desire to whittle away at her, just as I hope she doesn't try to whittle away at me. She can believe whatever she likes. I believe in mutual respect for others beliefs.
And it'll be there, day in and day out. Whittling away at her. "Why doesn't your husband come?". Visits from the local leaders because they can, because they own her membership. VTs, HTS, and everyone else, with sad pats on her shoulders, and pouty eyes at you - its just too bad you "lost" the spirit.
WjExMo wrote:And it'll be there, day in and day out. Whittling away at her. "Why doesn't your husband come?". Visits from the local leaders because they can, because they own her membership. VTs, HTS, and everyone else, with sad pats on her shoulders, and pouty eyes at you - its just too bad you "lost" the spirit.
Just stand your ground, it's what I have to do.
Oh yes, I certainly expect I'll get it from those around her. My mom has been bombarding me with emails begging me to just go to church with her and bring a good book to read. I don't have to listen, but just sit by her side and support her.
I'm not too worried about her though. She's a pretty strong person and has no problem telling people back the f off and mind their own business. I don't suspect it will take long for people to quit bugging her.
If there's one thing I've learned from this board, it's that consensual sex with multiple partners is okay unless God commands it. - Abman
I find this place to be hostile toward all brands of stupidity. That's why I like it. - Some Schmo
I've heard of some interesting couples, but it's the first time I've ever heard of anything like your situation! But it's great you're both going in with your eyes wide open.
You should pitch a reality show to BYUTV. You could call it "Beauty and the (ex-)Priest", or "Blind Apos-date".
Scottie, what were you doing at an LDS dance in the first place? What does an ex-believer want from an LDS dance....ummm, never mind, I think I know! LOL
Congrats on your new mate. Where we find love and connection is not so important as just finding it. Which proves that humans value relationships and not ethereal beliefs which exist in the fleshy matter of our brains and nowhere else.
Basically, by accepting an apostate, your fiance is saying that love is more important than anything the LDS church teaches. That is kick ass!
Not only is your intended attractive, you are much better looking than I thought you would be.
All the Best!
--Consiglieri
Are you coming on to me, Consig?? :)
by the way, just let it be known that if I do attend sacrament meeting with her, I'll take a page out of the Consig book and write naughty notes back and forth for the viewing pleasure of the prudes.
If there's one thing I've learned from this board, it's that consensual sex with multiple partners is okay unless God commands it. - Abman
I find this place to be hostile toward all brands of stupidity. That's why I like it. - Some Schmo