Divorce is in the air (wife caught me looking at porn)

[_Doctor CamNC4Me]

Not at all. A man who can controls his appetites controls his life. You are not an animal with no mind, no self control. Yet you act like the only part of your life you can't control is your sex drive. I think that's a bunch of bull. If you wanted to control yourself, you would. You don't, so you don't.

Uh. Hello. Men do control themselves. It's called masturbation. The OP should be free to masturbate as much as he wants. He should look at porn. He isn't harming anyone. His wife is a controlling asshole.

Why do people have sex? They have a sex drive and they want to make little humans.

Why do people have a sex drive and want to make little humans.

People are encoded with the desire to have sex and make little humans.

Why?

People are mutations from previous lifeforms that are madated by their DNA to have sex and make little *whatever*.

Why?

Life is defined by things that replicate themselves. If you don't replicate then you're not following your genetic mandate. If you don't eat you are not following your genetic mandate. If you don't sleep you are no following your genetic mandage. If you don't Screw you are not following your genetic mandate. Whether or not it's lethal is beside the point. It will drive you crazy if you don't follow a genetic mandate.

C'mon, woman. Get with it.

V/R
Dr. Cam

[_Dr. Shades]

Abaddon:

Tell your wife that you'll swear off viewing pornography just as soon as she swears off shopping.


Baker:

The pornographic arts are one of the greatest gifts that God has given us, to be partaken of in the spirit of joy and thanksgiving.

[_Molok]

So, chumps. What would you do in my situation?

Start drinking.

Ha ha, that was a good one, Droopy.

[_moksha]

Well, what if the woman is the one initiating sex. . . almost everyday, maybe even twice a day. . . will the man still view the porn, or have a desire to view it?

This would certainly raise the threshold on temptability. A very wise move on the part of the wife to insure faithfulness and success of the marriage. There is probably so heavenly reward for this as well.

And what do ya men of the forum think, would there come a point where you would have to tell your woman, "I'm just not in the mood"?

Occasionally in the the later forties, with increased frequency of not being continually in the mood each subsequent decade. Don't worry, morning times are always good to go.

[_Joseph]

http://www.deseretnews.com/article/7000 ... ciety.html

You might let here know you are viewing to help the Marriots to pay their tithing.

[_harmony]

Life is defined by things that replicate themselves. If you don't replicate then you're not following your genetic mandate. If you don't eat you are not following your genetic mandate. If you don't sleep you are no following your genetic mandage. If you don't f*** you are not following your genetic mandate. Whether or not it's lethal is beside the point. It will drive you crazy if you don't follow a genetic mandate.

C'mon, woman. Get with it.

V/R
Dr. Cam

Thus women who are unable to replicate are expendable? As are women who are past the age of replicating? As are women who have already done their replicating?

Get real, Cam.

[_Dr. Shades]

Well, what if the woman is the one initiating sex. . . almost everyday, maybe even twice a day. . .

Will you marry me?

[_just me]

Life is defined by things that replicate themselves. If you don't replicate then you're not following your genetic mandate. If you don't eat you are not following your genetic mandate. If you don't sleep you are no following your genetic mandage. If you don't f*** you are not following your genetic mandate. Whether or not it's lethal is beside the point. It will drive you crazy if you don't follow a genetic mandate.

C'mon, woman. Get with it.

V/R
Dr. Cam

Thus women who are unable to replicate are expendable? As are women who are past the age of replicating? As are women who have already done their replicating?

Get real, Cam.

Riiiight! As a matter of fact, men won't even consider having sex with a woman who is using birth control! It's against their genetic mandate. ;) They eschew every position that is impure and unnatural.

[_Doctor CamNC4Me]

Oh, for “F”'s sake. It's like I'm talking to a child.

The urge to replicate is encoded in most everyone. Those who don't have an urge are a mutation cause by natural events. They generally don't have sex, and they generally don't have offspring.

Sex is the program that compels people to copulate and to create more little humans. In men the urge to “F” is simply a directive encoded in our genes. In women, the urge to “F” and to have babies is a directive encoded in their genes.

Would you fault a bird for nesting? No, you wouldn't. Would you fault a dog for salivating at a bowl of food? No. You wouldn't. The idea that Men have to be more like you, and less like themselves is more a relflection of your own misunderstanding of nature, and the human condition. Men are men. Women are women. Our genetic mandates are generally different, and that's why we do what we do. If you think we're products of conditioning then I think you're up in the night, woman.

Men and women are attracted to each other, but we're not equals, we're not the same, and we're not going to turn one another into one another. A man must be a man, and a woman must be a woman. The OP's wife fundamentally misunderstands her husband because she views him through her own feminine perceptions, colored by the mythology of Mormonism. You don't own a dog and then wish it were a cat. It doesn't make any sense. Either enjoy the company of that damned dog, or get rid of it and get a cat. Jesus.

V/R
Dr. Cam

[_onandagus]

Abaddon,

Sounds like you've got some amends to make. This can't be a unique experience; so there must be plenty written, particularly online, about how to reconcile with a spouse after such a discovery. You are going to have to show your contrition for having done something she is hurt by.

It also sounds like this is an opportunity. It has brought out into the open the dearth of sexual intimacy in your marriage. Perhaps, as you mend things, you can discuss more explicitly how you can put the spark back into your romantic and sexual lives.

Rather than presenting to her the idea that you legitimately should supplement your scarce sex life with pornography, seemingly accepting the rarity of sex in your marriage as something normal and unchangeable, I would suggest framing your use of porn as something you have misguidedly done to substitute for more intimacy with her, intimacy you would like to rebuild in your marriage.

Some advantages of this:

1) It has you taking this as an opportunity to work on your marriage, rather than to justify to your wife your use of porn.

2) It means more sex! However cute those gals on the screen may be, they can't possibly feel to you anywhere near as good as being with a real live woman, in the form of your wife, would.

3) More sex in your marriage would almost certainly mean a better relationship for the two of you. Ever heard of the "F" index? Marriage researchers have found that marital satisfaction can largely be predicted by subtracting the frequency of fights from the frequency of...well, they called it "fornication"--an obvious misnomer, but you get the idea!

Try this!

Best of luck,

Don