What fetishes have you developed since leaving the church?
Posted: Tue Dec 14, 2010 8:30 pm
Apparently, one of the "wages of sin" (read: the fruits of apostasy) is the development of weird sexual fetishes that we are likely to drone on about.
This has me thinking: has anyone's sexual interests changed since leaving the LDS church? [Please, let's keep this PG-13 per board rules.]
What I've noticed is that sex seems to occupy a lot of Mormon minds. My daughter came home from church on Sunday with a "Pledge to Fight the Plague" of pornography. Both Sunday School and Relief Society were dedicated to a discussion of pornography and how to escape it. She said they were told that they should ask any prospective spouse about their pornography use; any boy who denied looking at porn was lying, they said.
But the pledge thing did prompt a good conversation with my daughter about how it is appropriate when getting serious with a young man to discuss expectations about sexuality in marriage.
Sometimes I think the shame and guilt built up around sexuality in the church gives some people a warped outlook. I've mentioned, for example, that my picture has shown up on several sexually oriented message boards, and I very much doubt that it was an exmo who did that. It's well known that "deviant" sexual practices are more prevalent among those who were raised to see sex as shameful and sinful. We know that Utah is the number one porn using state in the country; I don't think that's coincidental.
As for me, my sexual interests haven't changed much since I lost my faith (unless you count the Troy McClure problem I struggle with). I'm about as boring as ever.
This has me thinking: has anyone's sexual interests changed since leaving the LDS church? [Please, let's keep this PG-13 per board rules.]
What I've noticed is that sex seems to occupy a lot of Mormon minds. My daughter came home from church on Sunday with a "Pledge to Fight the Plague" of pornography. Both Sunday School and Relief Society were dedicated to a discussion of pornography and how to escape it. She said they were told that they should ask any prospective spouse about their pornography use; any boy who denied looking at porn was lying, they said.
But the pledge thing did prompt a good conversation with my daughter about how it is appropriate when getting serious with a young man to discuss expectations about sexuality in marriage.
Sometimes I think the shame and guilt built up around sexuality in the church gives some people a warped outlook. I've mentioned, for example, that my picture has shown up on several sexually oriented message boards, and I very much doubt that it was an exmo who did that. It's well known that "deviant" sexual practices are more prevalent among those who were raised to see sex as shameful and sinful. We know that Utah is the number one porn using state in the country; I don't think that's coincidental.
As for me, my sexual interests haven't changed much since I lost my faith (unless you count the Troy McClure problem I struggle with). I'm about as boring as ever.