“Also far-reaching is the effect of loss of chastity. Once given or taken or stolen it can never be regained. Even in forced contact such as rape or incest, the injured one is greatly outraged. If she has not cooperated and contributed to the foul deed, she is of course in a more favorable position. There is no condemnation where there is no voluntary participation. It is better to die in defending one’s virtue than to live having lost it without a struggle.”
–Spencer W. Kimball, The Miracle of Forgiveness.
stemelbow wrote:that's not teaching it'd be better to be dead then to lose your viriginity before marriage. he says you'd be better off dead then to lose it without a struggle. You guys sure know how to make the mountains out of molehills. I figgered that was the case.
I have a 17 year old daughter. She is beautiful, smart and very funny, and I love her very much.
Let us suppose that one evening she finds herself in a situation with a young man where they have both let their emotions and hormones get the better of them. She decides to put a stop to things but the young man is beyond listening to reason. He becomes forceful. She resists him. Soon it becomes apparent to her that it is his intention to have his way with her, regardless of her protestations. She remembers President Kimball's teachings and has a choice to make: Resist this young man, even if he murders her in the process OR stop resisting at the point that his violence becomes overwhelming in an effort to preserve her life.
It is my hope that my dear daughter will not take any action which would provoke a violent aggressor to murder her.
I want her home again, to heal, no matter what.
Spencer W. Kimball taught that I should be grateful to bury my daughter, and be happy that she fought to the death to preserve her virginity.
Spencer W. Kimball may or may not have been a monster. I don't know. I never met the man. But this 'teaching' of his is truly monstrous and supremely evil.