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In light of the recent FMH post recounting a sex talk given by a bishop, I would like to throw out an idea.

What do you think about the bishop gathering all the men AND women together and saying something like this:

"What we all want in our marriage is emotional connection and affection. It's not all about the sexual climax. Go ahead and see if I'm right. Try abstaining from sex for 3 months and only masturbate and tell me if that works as a substitute for true connection in your marriage. Go ahead. You have my permission to experiment. Yes, this even means you can look at "porn" if you have to...whatever that means.

What we really want in our relationship is to feel love, desire, kinship, touch, and synergy of togetherness. While masturbation and obligatory sex provide the sensation of climax, they fail to provide any deep connection or true affection to the one you love.

So, what can we do get more emotional connection and affection? Obviously, a bond between two people requires that both parties put in effort. When you come home at the end of the day, do you sit on your ass or do you help with dinner? Do you engage with the kids and ask about their homework? Do you look your spouse in the eyes when she/he talks about her/his day? What about the kindling? Do you have kindling for your fires? Do you hold hands? Do you spontaneously take each other to do interesting things? Do you plan things? Do you put in effort to secure your future? Do you take the time to talk? Do you watch erotic movies like Downton Abbey or Pride and Prejudice together? Do you talk about what songs are sexy (i.e. Cake's Short Skirt or Dave Matthews' Hike your skirt up...)? Do you fantasize about hot men/women/superheroes/villains/fawns/etc?

If you aren't doing those things, then you might as well take up masturbation if you feel like you want more sex. If you feel like you do all the work and your spouse is lazy, then you need to talk about it without sounding accusatory. Go, dress this garden, and find joy therein.

In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen."

Boy, this made me realize I need to step things up a bit and get off my ass. What do you think? Am I too idealistic?

My favorite was when as a teen, we requested something along the lines of the "relationship between men and women" and we got it. Several men and women from the ward all spoke magnificently about it and yes, there was discussion on sex (which was what we wanted being teens).

This was back in the early 80's.

I would recommend the following "lesson manuals" be required for each member participating in the fireside:

Orally Pleasuring a Woman

Orally Pleasuring a Man

Make it ten week course of study. Can you imagine how the attendance rates would skyrocket?

zeezrom wrote:Do you fantasize about hot men/women/superheroes/villains/fawns/etc?

nice.

the couple that cosplays together, stays together.

I would simply come right out (so to speak) about having fantasized about Megan Fox's smokin hot ass while engaged in intimate relations with my garment-wearing spouse, for whom the answer to so many bedroom inquiries was: it's dirty down there.

Well I don't know for certain, but I'm fairly sure Ms Fox's "down there" is NEVER too "dirty" for my tastes. I'd go down three times this morning and at least an even half dozen on Sunday--funky garment slit notwithstanding.

I think, that if the Bishop see's fit to involve himself in the wards bedrooms then he should be prepared to go all the way and hold a fireside to outline and explain what sexual activity is/is not considered acceptable to God.

Drifting wrote:I think, that if the Bishop see's fit to involve himself in the wards bedrooms then he should be prepared to go all the way and hold a fireside to outline and explain what sexual activity is/is not considered acceptable to God.

For example powerpoint presentation: "Not acceptable activities" ???

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