DrW wrote:Responding to IHAQ, hagoth7 wrote: May I ask, why do you dislike the church so much as to not want to grant it the smallest degree of charity? The slightest benefit of the doubt? Did someone offend you? Have I somehow offended you? Do you feel that God somehow let you down somewhere along the way? (I hope not, but would sincerely like to know.) Please feel free to launch a separate thread.
hagoth7,
Sorry for jumping in here,
No apology needed. Good to hear from you again.
DrW wrote:...but I have been following your responses on this thread and just couldn't "keep quite" any longer.
Surely you must realize that your paragraph, as quoted above, is a laundry list of defensive TBM cliches.
If it comes across as trite, I am sorry.
DrW wrote:To those who have left the Church, these "standard issue" TBM response questions are seen as borne of willful ignorance and misunderstanding, bad assumptions, and arrogance.
If I have come across as arrogant, I again apologize.
DrW wrote:You must have read on this board enough to know that these questions are right out of the apologists' playbook. They are seen by most who have left the Church as largely irrelevant substitutions for the questions that should be asked in this situation, and even as a bit humorous.
Then please help me. What are the questions that should be asked?
DrW wrote:Did people in the Church offend me now and then? Absolutely.
I am very sorry for that. And I remember reading, not long after joining this community, how others in the church offended your wife. I am very sorry for that too.
DrW wrote:None of the reasons you listed were even factors in why I left the LDS Church.
Fair enough. I can only speaking from my own experience. I didn't begin to doubt the church years back until others offended me deeply. I recall from your story about your wife that it was the same for her. For me, I came to a point where I realized I hadn't seen darkness in every corner of the church until after I had chosen to take offense. And from what little I had learned about psychology, I realized I may be more involved in a cycle of pain avoidance than anything else, and began to question my own questions. And to doubt my own doubts. And to eventually realize that there was enough evidence for good in my neighbors, and in the church, and in the kidness of leaders, and in the Nephite record, that belief is actually a viable intellectual choice.
DrW wrote:I left as a matter of personal integrity.
I don't doubt that you're a man of integrity.
DrW wrote:Once I grew up,...
Meanwhile, I politely refuse to grow up...Perhaps some day. :0)
DrW wrote:...the questions I asked about the LDS Church - the questions that are relevant - led me to the realization that I could no longer, in good conscience, be associated with the LDS Church because.. - The LDS Church continues to lie about its history and its foundational truth claims have been falsified. Yet the Church demands money from members, and those who do not pay in full are barred from full participation in its "sacred" rituals, most of which were simply copied from the Freemasons.
I actually believe Freemasonry is nothing more than a relic of Nephite temple worship in ancient/medieval Europe, transferred to Europe around the time of Hagoth. (Yes, I believe Nephites existed, and still exist. And yes, I believe they may well be among your forefathers - and that you are now likely one of them.) So I believe Joseph restored the Nephite elements.
DrW wrote:- The LDS Church has failed to disclose even basic information about the disposition of the revenues it collects from its members, while engaging in profit making commercial enterprises that often benefit Church leaders (who serve on boards) and insiders (who make sweetheart deals involving LDS Church businesses).
If you can't in good conscience give there, I can certainly respect that. I would imagine you give generously where you deem appropriate.
DrW wrote:I am no longer associated with the LDS Church because it is an organization built on...a large dose of nepotism...
I choose to believe the church is good based on its fruits. There is goodness and kindness in local leaders and members. I don't care if someone's cousin or brother is serving with someone else, fine. I don't have an issue with that. Aaron served with Moses. Nephi and his brothers served side by side.
I do appreciate your concerns. Thank you for sharing them. I hope I haven't been dismissive of them.