Parent forbidden from calling his missionary son in Houston

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Re: Parent forbidden from calling his missionary son in Hous

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Analytics wrote:But on the other hand the mission president is acting the way mission presidents act--he is not off script on anything he said.

Indeed, the adult kid can take his power back any time he wants to, and it is no surprise that the mission president is sticking to the well-known script.

This is the same mission program that shames people for wanting to go home for the funeral of a parent or sibling. It pegs almost all objective measures of use of thought reform techniques that I have ever seen. The only things they don't do on a mission are systematic extreme malnutrition and extreme sleep deprivation (although I'm sure those happen from time to time on a mission). Why would we not expect the MP to react in the most cult-like manner possible?
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I would not recognize the authority of the MP over me and my safety and giving my parents peace of mind. What an asshat.
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Part of me wonders if the prohibition on calling missionaries was instituted only to save $$ in a day when calling long distance was very expensive, and the rule just persisted because no one knew of the reasons for its origin.
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Philo Sofee wrote:I would not recognize the authority of the MP over me and my safety and giving my parents peace of mind. What an asshat.

Yeah but the missionary doesn't know his parents are trying to contact him.

What the heck is up with that stuff, huh? Maybe there's a time to put a black out between parent/child but natural disaster shouldn't be one of them.

No brains, I say.
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Analytics wrote:On the one hand it's ridiculous. But on the other hand the mission president is acting the way mission presidents act--he is not off script on anything he said. The kid is an adult and volunteered for this. If the kid wants to call his parents he is free to break the ridiculous mission rules and call. But the mission president is under no obligation to give private phone numbers to people who email and ask--even if the person calling is a parent. In fact, in any other situation it would be considered an invasion of privacy to hand out the cell phone numbers of others.

If the parent didn't trust his kid to take care of himself like an adult and didn't trust the mission system to look after him, he should have made arrangements directly with his kid to keep in touch.

Drop the mic on this response. It's the only one that doesn't look at the exchange between the mission president and the parent in the worst possible light. The missionary is an adult. As hard as it is for the parent, it's the missionary's decision whether to give out contact information or not.
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Yes it is the missionary's "decision" to run afoul of the idiotic mission rules and to be shamed by fellow missionaries or punished by the jack-ass mission president. #definitelynotacult
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Viriatu wrote:Drop the mic on this response. It's the only one that doesn't look at the exchange between the mission president and the parent in the worst possible light. The missionary is an adult. As hard as it is for the parent, it's the missionary's decision whether to give out contact information or not.

And had the Mission President contacted the missionary (all missionaries) and given him (them) that choice then you'd be right.

But he didn't.

At least it's not a cult....
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consiglieri wrote:How about a blanket email to all missionaries telling them they can call their families and let them know they are all right?


Makes me wonder if missionaries had also been instructed not to directly contact or call their families.
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My wife asked a very effective question. Why on earth would the parents even worry or bother about what the Mission President wanted? Who cares about getting permission. No parent needs anyone else's permission to talk to their children. Why would they have even thought of asking permission?!

I gotta admit, she hit that one out of the ball park.
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Philo Sofee wrote:My wife asked a very effective question. Why on earth would the parents even worry or bother about what the Mission President wanted? Who cares about getting permission. No parent needs anyone else's permission to talk to their children. Why would they have even thought of asking permission?!

I gotta admit, she hit that one out of the ball park.


Was he asking for permission, or was he asking for the contact number.
The parent had no way of phoning his son except by getting the number from the mission office, or by his son breaking mission rules and calling Home.
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