Breaking news: TSCC thinks youth interviews are A-Ok

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Breaking news: TSCC thinks youth interviews are A-Ok

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https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865694054/In-our-opinion-Mormon-bishop-interviews-are-not-invitations-for-abuse.html

Most who understand Mormonism know that the relationship between local Latter-day Saint leaders and youths is not an invitation for abuse but rather an integral part of an environment that encourages moral and spiritual progress among Mormon adolescents.


Ugh!

Church is voluntary. So are one-on-one interviews. But it’s not hard to imagine how the conversation would likely change if parents or peers are in the room, particularly when working through challenges that all too often accompany young adulthood — anxieties at school and home, drugs, pornography or, in some cases, promiscuity.


Oh, I must have missed this lesson growing up about church being voluntary. I thought church attendance was one of the many requirements for temple worthiness and temple worthiness was a crucial indicator for CK admittance. Who knew church attendance and interviews were voluntary for my temple recommend? :rolleyes:
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When one is 12 years old, a bishop's interview is about as voluntary as going to school. I'm glad my bishop waited until I was 16 before he asked me the masturbation question, but are all youth as lucky as I was?
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LDS interviews are double-edged swords. Predator bishops can take advantage of minors which is absolutely disgusting. The church needs to do more stop such horrendous crimes.

However, sometimes LDS interviews can be used for good. For example, in many cases children abuse other children. A child (victim or perpetrator) can be too afraid (or embarrassed) to tell his/her parents what happened. I suspect many teenagers do confess sexual misconduct, abuse, or rape to their Bishops. Religion is a powerful psychological tool, it makes many offenders confess their sins.

There are a lot of bad parents that never teach their children anything about sexual misconduct, so there is no doubt some teenagers do need a good Bishop. Please give me some feedback if I am wrong.

A little more than a third of all sexual abuse of children that comes to the attention of police is committed by another minor; typically a teenager between the ages of thirteen and seventeen. I find that to be a rather remarkable statistic that most people probably are not aware of. Moreover, about sixteen percent of juvenile sex offenders are under the age of twelve. Again, these are cases that are known by law enforcement. One can understand that the younger the age of the "perpetrator" the less chance there is that police would be involved. Not surprisingly, it is not hard to understand that a proportion of abusive sexual behavior committed by children less than twelve years of age is never brought to the attention of law enforcement. Very likely even a majority....

The sexual abuse of children is a significant and disturbing reality in our society. We know that one in four girls and one in six boys will be sexually abused in some manner prior to reaching adulthood. We now understand that a considerable number of kids that are abused are abused by other children or teenagers. Sadly, every year, thousands of kids if not more will have to endure the sexually abusive or sexually intrusive behavior of another child. It is crucial that parents understand this problem and teach their children how to avoid any hurtful and unwelcome sexual behavior of other children.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/White House ... ildren-who

For the sad fact that there are terrible parents I cannot entirely support the idea of ending youth interviews at this moment . I know a Bishop can never replace a parent, but in some circumstances a Bishop may be what a child needs.
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Re: Breaking news: TSCC thinks youth interviews are A-Ok

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However, our world is complicated because LDS interviews can be used for good. For example, in many cases children abuse other children. A child (victim or perpetrator) can be too afraid (or embarrassed) to tell his/her parents what happened. I suspect many teenagers do confess sexual misconduct, abuse, or rape to their Bishops. Religion is a powerful tool, it makes many offenders confess their sins. There are a lot of bad parents that never teach their children anything about sexual misconduct, so there is no doubt that some teenagers do need a good Bishop. I am sure no one has ever thought of this perspective, please give me some feedback if I am wrong.

could you just confirm that you meant the bolded question as it is written, or did auto-correct change something?
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Lemmie wrote:could you just confirm that you meant the bolded question as it is written, or did auto-correct change something?


I am asking if I am wrong. Would you agree or disagree about what I just wrote? Why?
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Lemmie wrote:could you just confirm that you meant the bolded question as it is written, or did auto-correct change something?


Why do you ask? Is it wrong to ask for opinions?
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deacon blues wrote:When one is 12 years old, a bishop's interview is about as voluntary as going to school. I'm glad my bishop waited until I was 16 before he asked me the masturbation question, but are all youth as lucky as I was.

No, they are not. My son was asked about masturbation when he was 12.
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DoubtingThomas wrote:
Lemmie wrote:could you just confirm that you meant the bolded question as it is written, or did auto-correct change something?


I am asking if I am wrong. Would you agree or disagree about what I just wrote? Why?

For what it’s worth, I think that you do have a good point and that perspective is often missed.
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As a parent, I missed the part where the Bishop encourages parents to be in the next room to the interview. I was never invited to do this, and I have been in four wards where my children have been interviewed.

It seems to the the default behavior of TSCC to be disingenuous with any press release or PR statement.
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DoubtingThomas wrote:
Lemmie wrote:could you just confirm that you meant the bolded question as it is written, or did auto-correct change something?


I am asking if I am wrong. Would you agree or disagree about what I just wrote? Why?

I wanted to clarify that you indeed meant to say "I am sure no one has ever thought of this perspective..." before I commented.
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