The LDS culture has a well established tradition of dealing with outside criticism, persecution, etc. An important part of this is the story from Lehi's/Joseph Smith, Sr's dream, and its image of the opposition: the great and spacious building inhabited by mocking people. I recently had a discussion with my TBM sister about the merits of Mormonism, and despite my intent to listen more than talk, I would roll my eyes, and make other similar facial expressions that probably betrayed my disapproval of some of her comments. The conversation was civil and helpful (other siblings would have lost their cool at the mention of my criticisms) but I could see her reaction to my facial expressions, and wished I hadn't made them. I don't know if anything I said made an impression, but she expressed some empathy for my view that we needed to understand the feminine side of the Divine nature, namely Heavenly Mother.
I admire my sister for the way she bears the burdens life has given her. She was respectful and showed empathy. I was heartened by her response, and feel my response was generally good, except for facial expressions that could have been interpreted is mocking or disrespectful.
I feel those those who post here generally have a nuanced view of Mormonism, but sometimes their insights are obscured by their insults.
In other words: people forget what you say, because how you say it pisses them off, or makes them feel like crap.
May our exchanges be more empathetic and productive is my wish, in the name of Truth and Love. Amen.
