Hi Res Ipsa,Res Ipsa wrote: ↑Mon Apr 04, 2022 10:15 pmDon't worry about other people. They are who they are.Free Ranger wrote: ↑Fri Apr 01, 2022 3:37 am
Res Ipsa, thanks for being cordial while disagreeing with me. I don't know why other people can't be more civil.
I totally agree with what you said about the Viking bit. I actually had my DNA done and I'm actually around 50% Swedish with some Iceland and thus Viking; but I don't act like a medieval Viking, trust me. I wouldn't even know how to be a berserker without laughing at myself. I am tall and blue eyed and pale skin and fairly strong winning weightlifting competitions in my youth (thanks to my ancestors) but I'm actually like I said high on empathy.
The point I was making in my initial post is that the TV show Euphoria in general presents a Leftist ideology yet in that one episode the screenwriters couldn't help themselves in pointing out the silliness of Wokeism and it's contradiction between the socially constructed ideal and the actual biology of the woman. If you read Nancy Friday's book on women's fantasies you will see that most women are not really attracted to the men of the Woke ideology that says how men should be and act.
I'm wondering if you are reading too much into Euphoria. Self contradiction is a theme in lots of TV shows. Sometimes its there for humor. Sometimes for pathos. Sometimes to show hypocrisy. Sometimes to show how complicated both life and people are. Im not sure it holds up in terms of the broad conclusions you are drawing.
As to Nancy Friday, aren't those books about 50 years old now? Yes, they were revolutionary in their day because they brought to light that women also had sexual fantasies. But they weren't random samples. And they're outdated. I don't think one can just assume that the fantasies she wrote about in her book are representative of women's fantasies today.
But when you use the phrase "not really attracted to men of the Woke ideology," it sounds to me as if you are extrapolating from fantasies about sex to what someone is attracted to in terms of a life partner. And those are two different things. Confusing fantasies with reality is almost always a mistake.
I'm not convinced that "women" are biologically attracted to "certain masculine traits" in a way that matters in terms of how a male person should conduct himself. It makes sense that "attraction" would involve both processes we are aware of and some that run under the hood. Who knows how that all nets out. But empirically, it appears that women are attracted to men who exhibit an extremely wide variety of behaviors. I say empirically, because one only has to look at the wide variety of men involved in pairings with women.Free Ranger wrote:To be clear, I agree with you that every woman is different and they want different things romantically. As I said, I am high in empathy (and intuitiveness), and I've never had any complaints from women and no that is not me bragging on my physicality in the bedroom, it is me referring to my thoughtful, sentimental and poetic side.
So the biology bit of it I am pointing out is that women are biologically attracted to certain masculine traits. This is not my opinion, this is what all the science shows. If you want I will go into more detail of all that I have learned on the subject. This does not mean that women want a total jerk, it just means that they want certain masculine traits that are biologically embedded in them from millions of years of evolution. The same is true of me as a man, there are certain feminine traits that I am biologically designed to find attractive. This is really not in dispute objectively according to science.
So the reason I brought up the TV show is because the TV show itself was pointing out this contradiction between what this character Kat actually biologically wants as revealed in her sex fantasy (which I admit is probably clearly meant as a hyperbolic scenario yet true on a deeper level), in contrast to the "nice guy" her boyfriend is, which bores the crap out of her.
You're probably right that I currently watch too much TV. We all have our vices. I'm undergoing recuperation from a shoulder injury so I can't go to the gym currently and thus have more time on my hands.
The good boy/bad boy dichotomy has become a trope in entertainment. Again, I don't think there is a basis that allows to extrapolate anything from that to actual women and what any woman "wants."
"Woke cult," in my opinion, has become one of those trash can terms that people throw a whole bunch of stuff into simply because they don't like it. It seems to be the amped up version of "politically correct," which I generally have equated with something like "basic civility." in my opinion, it's a term that allows critics of certain things to avoid talking about specific behaviors and why they are irritated by them.Free Ranger wrote:Regarding me being "for patriarchy," my view is actually a little more nuanced. Like I said, one my favorite movie is Aliens with a strong female lead. I am not intimidated by strong women. I just don't like the Woke cult doing what it is doing. I also would have no problem with Mormon women getting the priesthood but to be honest I'm not bothered by women not having the priesthood either. I haven't thought the issue all the way through but it seems to me like a kind of trade-off which I can explore if you want. The main reason I'm not bothered by issues like that, is that I really started questioning my Liberal positions I had in the 1990s and early 2000s. It was actually Nietzsche, who is heralded by the Liberal professors, that actually made me more Conservative and more respectful of male hierarchy which we see in all the ape species and we are apes. I began to realize reading Nietzsche that when you take a cold hard realistic look at reality, Life itself is hierarchical and mostly patriarchal with a few matriarchal exceptions like the bonobos. I also began to realize that during my exMormon atheist phase which eventually, through my reductionism, led me into nihilism, I realized that the progressivism I was imbibing was doing nothing for me as a masculine male. It just led me into a bland passivity and existential depression in many ways. So I got to thank Nietzsche in many ways for kind of giving me a spark in my ass in a way, it's hard to explain and put into words as a man to explain it but he really did effectively call me out of pessimistic nihilism and unmotivating progressivism and into a more optimistic nihilism with more masculine vitality and then this led me toward seeing the artistic value and vitality of religious humanism, specifically Christian humanism which then led to me thinking of reassessing Mormonism.
So, I like your reference to bonobos. Our closest relatives in the animal kingdom include chimps and bonobos -- two species with almost diametrically opposed social behaviors. Yet, when we talk about "natural behavior," we focus on the chimps. Why not the bonobos? Why is one more "natural" than the others. But beyond that, what you are describing reminds me of the naturalistic fallacy. Why should we be looking biological and sociological history and accepting that as how things should be. Evolution doesn't happen in real time, and there is no way that it can keep up with the ever increasing rates of change we find ourselves in. And, given modern medicine, it's questionable whether any selection pressure is occurring today in terms of male and female behavior, meaning it's going to wander all over the map. Indeed, male and female behavior is very likely as much a social construct as it is biology.
Individual stories are just that. I don't think I ever set out to become a "masculine male" as a project. I was too busy just trying to figure out how to be a decent person after my entire framework of thinking collapsed. When you use terms like "masculine vitality" I literally don't know what you mean. To me, vitality isn't a gendered thing. Most things aren't.
I grappled with postmodernism, and came out an optimistic and motivated progressive. It's never occurred to me to view that through gendered lenses. I know men and women with similar views, and it's never seemed to me to think about gender differences in context of those views. I'm a unique person. So are the others. Why spend time trying to classify how they think about the same general ideas into categories that seem artificial in that context.
I find value in all kinds of things -- even things I don't associate or affiliate with. I don't correlate artistic vitality with any category of people other than those who demonstrate artistic vitality. I don't associate Mormonism today with either category. I think correlation is the opposite of vitality. And I don't see Mormonism as an artistic force. It may have been more of both in the past, but I don't see it today. Still, if being a religious humanist or a Christian humanist or a Mormon humanist or a Mormon helps you thrive -- helps you live the kind of life you want to live, then I think you should be any or all of those. And if they don't work out, try something else.
Interesting comments.
Regarding your comments on my opinion of the TV show Euphoria, I still stand by my analysis.
If you are aware of a better book on women's fantasies. Let me know, I'm always open to book recommendations.
Regarding what I have shared about what women are attracted to I am simply summarizing a number of books by scientists, if I'm communicating what I've read ineffectively, fine; but I don't think you're really disagreeing with me but with the majority of biological sciences on the subject. For example, I suggest you check out the scientific work of Helen Fisher.
I think reality itself and observations of human interactions all around the world supports what I have said even if I might have communicated it ineffectively.
Regarding my use of the word cult to refer to wokeism. If it quacks like a duck, looks like a duck; it's probably a duck. If it looks like a cult and acts like a cult, it's a cult. I'm willing to say that Mormonism has cultish tendencies and behaviors too, but not nearly as bad as Wokeism.
Keep in mind as well that college fraternities, the military, and many sports fans also have cultish tendencies. If you study our ancestors back to Egypt, you'll see all kinds of cultish tendencies. It might just be part of our evolved tribal nature. See my previous post in this thread where I give a list of books written by atheistic scientists pointing out that we are religious by Nature.
Please tell me where this article linked below is incorrect in pointing out the cult behavior of wokeism: https://newdiscourses.com/2020/06/cult- ... -wokeness/
The exmormon Jonathan Streeter over at "thoughts on things and stuff," on his YouTube channel has realized that Mormonism is not nearly as problematic as wokeism nowadays, and has devoted his analytical powers to pointing out its problems. As a fellow ex-Mormon have you been open-minded and listened to any of his recent videos? See his channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCVTCFh3uDMH0GZlwl1JOoHQ
Have you taken the time to listen to or read an African American intellectual's perspective? For example see: Woke Racism: How a New Religion Has Betrayed Black America by John McWhorter
As a fellow ex-Mormon you of course were open-minded enough to study the critics of Mormonism; are you willing to study the critics of wokeism, especially those who are fellow ex-Mormons?
I think that we do indeed have inherited traits from both bonobos and chimps, but to deny that we have a lot of chimp tendencies is to simply look at the history of humanity with a blindfold on. Do you enjoy watching the UFC like I do? Do you think that we could ever come to a point where we repress all of that chimp-like energy?
But if you are arguing for just a total ongoing orgy of sex and women offering themselves freely sexually like female bonobos do, then hey, whatever works for you. But isn't that kind of like what Joseph Smith was trying to do to a certain degree? That is to move the Latter-day Saints beyond augustinian puritanism? After all, he allowed women to have more than one husband in some cases. So wasn't he just bringing out his inner bonobo? (Just joking, partially).
Your mentioning the naturalistic fallacy does not mean anything to me if you are an atheist who does not believe in a soul or objective Right and Wrong but is still asserting an "Ought from an Is" (see Hume). You also have to contend with Nietzsche's philosophy and argumentation which I mentioned in this thread.
You said, "male and female behavior is very likely as much a social construct as it is biology." I disagree; at least I disagree with what I think you are saying. Leaving Mormonism required relying on science and the science is clear. If you're going to apply science in rejecting Mormonism, then in all due respect, if you are going to be consistent you would accept the real sciences on this topic. Unless I'm misunderstanding what you mean by "... as much a social construct as it is biology," which is possible (that I'm misunderstanding you).
I agree with the last thing you said, i.e., we should all do whatever floats our boat.