“Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does.”KevinSim wrote: ↑Wed Oct 12, 2022 4:36 amThat's exactly my question, Doc. If I leave the cult, what kind of life can I expect to have? What kind of life can I live?Doctor CamNC4Me wrote: ↑Wed Oct 12, 2022 3:27 amMembers come to feel there can be no life outside the context of the group: characteristics associated with cults, Janja Lalich and Michael D. Langone.
The lack of pre-defined purpose, plus an existence that holds no inherent value, plus infinite choices always before us, is what J.P. Satre describes as the “anguish of freedom”.
Once you become unshackled from the various systems designed to control you, and with nothing to restrict you, you now have the choice to take actions to become who you want to be and lead the life you want to live. You now carry the burden to become who you want to become.
According to Mr. Sartre, each choice you make defines you while at the same time revealing to you what you think a human being, you, should be. This is an incredible burden of responsibility that a free man has to bear. It’s sort of like ‘enduring til the end’, except there’s no pay off with rainbow bridges and golden spires waiting for you because you followed the rules just so.
To be, or not to be, that is the first question. If you choose to be, then the real game is afoot because only you are responsible for crafting a life that has meaning for you. This naturally leads to suffering because, well, suffering is unavoidable in the natural world, and you get to choose how to manage that.
You can build beaver analogue dams. You can drink yourself to death. You can become a podiatrist. You can travel to a location and make tik tok videos. You can write a book. You can join the Kiwanas club. You can live on the streets trading sexual favors for drugs. You can write code. You can hike. You can become an aesthetic. You can become a monk. You can make YouTube videos about a niche interest. You can be angry. Or resentful. Or delusional. It’s your burden and your choices reveal to you who you are.
- Doc