The value of leaving Mormonism and not leaving it alone
Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2023 7:46 pm
It’s often said by church apologists that members can leave the church, but they can’t leave it alone. Of course, no one sees all the members who leave and do leave it alone. Because they don’t say anything on their way out and they never look back. They never say another word about Mormonism.
But there is real value in speaking up once you leave. If you can do it in a way that doesn’t re-victimize you. If you can do it in a healthy and constructive way, then you can create a community of ex-Mormons that stands as a lighthouse to guide people out of the Mormon church.
I think no other place online exemplifies this better than Reddit. It’s difficult for younger people to remember what the ex-Mormon community was like before Reddit. It consisted of a couple message boards. The recovery from Mormonism one looked like it hadn’t been updated since dial up modems were still ubiquitous.
But once Reddit came around, the ex-Mormon community exploded. People were sharing podcasts, criticizing the brethren, heckling general conference and every stupid policy blunder and PR nightmare the church made. In real time.
Very often, members would post their faces to the board to show everyone it’s ok to be ex-Mormon. It’s ok to show the world how much happier you are. It’s ok to drink tea and coffee. It’s ok to wear normal underwear.
You can leave the church, and you can have it both ways. You can move on with your life, and you can still add your voice to the growing choir of angels leading people out of the cult. I’m grateful to live in a time when so many of us can find community and support leaving such a toxic religion behind.
I bear you my testimony in the name of RFM, John Dehlin, Bill Reel, BYP, and reason and sanity. Ramen!
But there is real value in speaking up once you leave. If you can do it in a way that doesn’t re-victimize you. If you can do it in a healthy and constructive way, then you can create a community of ex-Mormons that stands as a lighthouse to guide people out of the Mormon church.
I think no other place online exemplifies this better than Reddit. It’s difficult for younger people to remember what the ex-Mormon community was like before Reddit. It consisted of a couple message boards. The recovery from Mormonism one looked like it hadn’t been updated since dial up modems were still ubiquitous.
But once Reddit came around, the ex-Mormon community exploded. People were sharing podcasts, criticizing the brethren, heckling general conference and every stupid policy blunder and PR nightmare the church made. In real time.
Very often, members would post their faces to the board to show everyone it’s ok to be ex-Mormon. It’s ok to show the world how much happier you are. It’s ok to drink tea and coffee. It’s ok to wear normal underwear.
You can leave the church, and you can have it both ways. You can move on with your life, and you can still add your voice to the growing choir of angels leading people out of the cult. I’m grateful to live in a time when so many of us can find community and support leaving such a toxic religion behind.
I bear you my testimony in the name of RFM, John Dehlin, Bill Reel, BYP, and reason and sanity. Ramen!