Any changes/modifications/transformations happening?

[Chap]

Katherine Ryan has some material in which she recounts a dialog like this:

Friend X: " I really hate being alone! I need lots of company!!"

KR: "I understand, Friend X. But I'm not that way. You see, when you're alone you get to hang out with you, and I understand that sucks. But when I'm alone I get to hang out with me - and that's really great!!"

[ceeboo]

Jersey Girl,

Thanks for the thread contribution, I appreciate it.


Hey Chap!

Katherine Ryan has some material in which she recounts a dialog like this:

Friend X: " I really hate being alone! I need lots of company!!"

Kyler Rasmussen: "I understand, Friend X. But I'm not that way. You see, when you're alone you get to hang out with you, and I understand that sucks. But when I'm alone I get to hang out with me - and that's really great!!"

Awesome!!!!

[Jersey Girl]

Katherine Ryan has some material in which she recounts a dialog like this:

Friend X: " I really hate being alone! I need lots of company!!"

KR: "I understand, Friend X. But I'm not that way. You see, when you're alone you get to hang out with you, and I understand that sucks. But when I'm alone I get to hang out with me - and that's really great!!"

I don't know how to explain what it's like to live in your head unless you are that way yourself. It brings about a sense of peace, calm, oneness, wholeness, and the interruptions of that flow are irritating and stressful. It's like Yoga on steroids without getting on the mat.

[Res Ipsa]

Thanks, Jersey Girl. It sounds like happy change. I had a therapist who once suggested I was an ambivert. Which means, I think, that I live in my head sometimes but I'm really boring company.

[Jersey Girl]

Thanks, Jersey Girl. It sounds like happy change. I had a therapist who once suggested I was an ambivert. Which means, I think, that I live in my head sometimes but I'm really boring company.

Yeah ambiverts are a bit of both worlds. I live with an extrovert which means he gets his energy from other people. Talking. If he's not talking he's basically dies. If he's not talking to me, he's talking on the phone, or he's listening to television talking. That is why I say if he leaves for a couple of hours, I'm golden!

Don't get me wrong--I can talk for hours to someone one:one. I prefer one:one because I'm taking stuff in. I'm basically a freak.

Oh! I learned how to turn on the actual television! The big guy got me a smart tv for the bedroom. I figured out how to get Netflix. I'm on my second round of watching all the seasons of The Crown. Why? Because it's quiet, historical, and psychological. I watch a few installments at night. Alone.

Don't know what all else is on the smart tv but I'll figure it out in winter!

[Atlanticmike]

Katherine Ryan has some material in which she recounts a dialog like this:

Friend X: " I really hate being alone! I need lots of company!!"

Kyler Rasmussen: "I understand, Friend X. But I'm not that way. You see, when you're alone you get to hang out with you, and I understand that sucks. But when I'm alone I get to hang out with me - and that's really great!!"

I don't know how to explain what it's like to live in your head unless you are that way yourself. It brings about a sense of peace, calm, oneness, wholeness, and the interruptions of that flow are irritating and stressful. It's like Yoga on steroids without getting on the mat.

Would you mind explaining what you mean by living in your own head? I probably live in my own head also.

[Res Ipsa]

Thanks, Jersey Girl. It sounds like happy change. I had a therapist who once suggested I was an ambivert. Which means, I think, that I live in my head sometimes but I'm really boring company.

Yeah ambiverts are a bit of both worlds. I live with an extrovert which means he gets his energy from other people. Talking. If he's not talking he's basically dies. If he's not talking to me, he's talking on the phone, or he's listening to television talking. That is why I say if he leaves for a couple of hours, I'm golden!

Don't get me wrong--I can talk for hours to someone one:one. I prefer one:one because I'm taking stuff in. I'm basically a freak.

Oh! I learned how to turn on the actual television! The big guy got me a smart tv for the bedroom. I figured out how to get Netflix. I'm on my second round of watching all the seasons of The Crown. Why? Because it's quiet, historical, and psychological. I watch a few installments at night. Alone.

Don't know what all else is on the smart tv but I'll figure it out in winter!

You go, girl! It's taken me a long time to understand that my wife, who is an introvert, is drained by interaction, including with me. For a while, I resented that she didn't want to go places, do things, meet people, etc. I get it lots better now.

[Some Schmo]

...I can keep myself going for extended periods of time with no one around. Like I could never say a word for weeks on end to anyone else and be perfectly content. I've always been this way.

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The only trips I make out have been to pick up food, collect up more art supplies, plants, and I did go out to get my hair cut a couple of times. Oh, and whatever doctor/dentist appointments, that sort of thing.

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I didn't make the connection to Thoreau's influence until just now writing this post.

“I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear; nor did I wish to practise resignation, unless it was quite necessary. I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life, to live so sturdily and Spartan-like as to put to rout all that was not life, to cut a broad swath and shave close, to drive life into a corner, and reduce it to its lowest terms...” ~Thoreau

Yeah, I'm in my head. I'm literally and figuratively in the woods. I'm not coming out again.

Man, I can relate to this stuff. I've been living in my head my whole life. I feel all my emotions, good and bad, all my aches and pains, all the laughter... I read a description of what they call "mindfulness" these days and I've been naturally doing that stuff since I can remember. I suspect living in the moment, feeling your emotions and considering what's causing them is the only way to purge and get past them.

But I think I've actually gone in the other direction since the pandemic caused all the isolation. I find myself seeking more social contact than I ever have. I've never felt the need to hang out with people just for its own sake until just this past year. I've spent the vast majority of my life content with and in my own company. I suppose being forced away from others is making me want to be with them.

I'm not sure what to make of it, except that I've been enjoying talking with people more lately. I expect I'll get past that too.

[Jersey Girl]

I don't know how to explain what it's like to live in your head unless you are that way yourself. It brings about a sense of peace, calm, oneness, wholeness, and the interruptions of that flow are irritating and stressful. It's like Yoga on steroids without getting on the mat.

Would you mind explaining what you mean by living in your own head? I probably live in my own head also.

Have you ever taken a personality test like the MBTI? If not, that's probably a good idea. There's tests online that you can take.

Try a Myers Briggs Type Indicator test or Keirsey Temperament Sorter test online. Those are better than nothing. I am sure there are more tests available, but those mainly are the two assessment tools used.

[Jersey Girl]

Yeah ambiverts are a bit of both worlds. I live with an extrovert which means he gets his energy from other people. Talking. If he's not talking he's basically dies. If he's not talking to me, he's talking on the phone, or he's listening to television talking. That is why I say if he leaves for a couple of hours, I'm golden!

Don't get me wrong--I can talk for hours to someone one:one. I prefer one:one because I'm taking stuff in. I'm basically a freak.

Oh! I learned how to turn on the actual television! The big guy got me a smart tv for the bedroom. I figured out how to get Netflix. I'm on my second round of watching all the seasons of The Crown. Why? Because it's quiet, historical, and psychological. I watch a few installments at night. Alone.

Don't know what all else is on the smart tv but I'll figure it out in winter!

You go, girl! It's taken me a long time to understand that my wife, who is an introvert, is drained by interaction, including with me. For a while, I resented that she didn't want to go places, do things, meet people, etc. I get it lots better now.

Yeah we have an introvert/extrovert thing going on here, too. All I can say is that we don't get our energy from other people. I think most of us get our energy from inside our head or doing something that doesn't involve other humans--which again puts us in our heads. It's kind of like practicing mindfulness but you if you could never stop doing it, you'd be okay with that. Invariably, some human has to say something and disrupt the circuitry. I like having meaningful conversations in real life. One:one. I'm fully capable of making small talk, but I hate it. I find it a huge waste of time.

He goes out to do what he wants to do, talk to other humans who want to talk, too. I'm happy to let him do it! But I will tell you what, if someone is in the hospital I make a damn good advocate because I take everything in--observation, facial expressions, voice tones, body language--I'm basically some kinda sick “F” of humanity but it comes in handy because I can transmit the needs that I see to medical staff. I think that's why some folks ask me to go with them. I can get in their head with them. Whoo boy, now I'm really disclosing.

One of the pitfalls of living in your head is the tendency to over analyze. You can get stuck in that process and it's not always a good thing.

Does your wife remember things in pretty vivid detail? Does she notice and recall things like the smell of the air, or the season, the texture of materials (sensory stuff) or even the cues of others in certain situations she's been in? Like does she pick up and record the background details of events?

More recently I have shared some childhood memories with a friend, my BFF that I grew up with and she doesn't remember most of anything I recall and that includes the very first interaction we ever had. I can recall it in pretty good detail, what she was wearing, what she was doing and what she did to get my attention that day. I dunno, things stay with me I guess. I could whip out a description of a childhood memory right now and it wouldn't be hard to share detail.