Italian National Lockdown drives 30% increase in divorces

[Guest]

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[_Doctor CamNC4Me]

"... and I hope my future girlfriend doesn't force me to marry her."

[_DoubtingThomas]

In our evolutionary past, we have all kinds of traits we've grown out of (or evolved away from, perhaps). It's our natural inclination to ____ our pants, but we can be trained to avoid it. More than anything, humans have learned to learn, which is their primary survival advantage. If you decide not to learn in order to make a relationship work, that's your problem, not one with humanity generally.

It is all in your genes. For some people it is impossible to be with the same person for life. It may be easy for you because of your good genes, but it is not easy for others.

"Genes play a role in the likelihood of divorce"
https://www.economist.com/science-and-t ... of-divorce

"The reason for most humans being monogamous is unclear, it may be a reflection of societal, religious and moral pressures."
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/a ... 3815300614

Doubting Thomas for the Dumb ____ of the Hour Award. Check in next hour win he wins it again.

- Doc

Do I get another Dumb ____ of the Hour Award?

[_DoubtingThomas]

"... and I hope my future girlfriend doesn't force me to marry her."

It's almost a coin flip.

"Experts now put your chances of uncoupling at about 39% in the U.S. This sounds like such promising news. Families are sticking together! But in practice, this does not mean more people are living happily ever after...Marriage is becoming one of the many institutions from which the poor, less-educated and disadvantaged are excluded."
https://time.com/5434949/divorce-rate-c ... -benefits/

[_Some Schmo]

It is all in your genes. For some people it is impossible to be with the same person for life. It may be easy for you because of your good genes, but it is not easy for others.

I suppose that's as good a reason to give up as any. I mean, if we can't learn because the genes we inherited which allow us to learn won't let us learn because we've taught them not to learn and they learned it, then we're screwed.

[_DoubtingThomas]

I suppose that's as good a reason to give up as any. I mean, if we can't learn because the genes we inherited which allow us to learn won't let us learn.

Not what I am saying. I simply think the marriage business needs to end. Marriage (a lifelong commitment) is probably doing more harm than good. A divorce can damage a woman's mental health. Society needs to stop giving young women unrealistic expectations, they can do a lot of harm. Love chemistry usually doesn't last for life.

[_Some Schmo]

Love chemistry usually doesn't last for life.

It barely lasts 3 months at the longest.

So what's the difference between couples who last after a few months and everyone else? Couples who last have learned to cooperate within the parameters of their relationship, and feel their partner is worth the effort.

Others decided not to learn it, or it was too much effort, or they were too selfish, or they simply didn't care. In any of those cases, the people involved weren't as invested in the relationship (and without a doubt, in many cases, those involved were justified in dissolving the relationship).

Bottom line: relationships take work. None are easy.

[_Jersey Girl]

Love chemistry usually doesn't last for life.

I repeat: relationships evolve.

[_Lemmie]

I suppose that's as good a reason to give up as any. I mean, if we can't learn because the genes we inherited which allow us to learn won't let us learn.

Not what I am saying. I simply think the marriage business needs to end. Marriage (a lifelong commitment) is probably doing more harm than good. A divorce can damage a woman’s [person’s] mental health. Society needs to stop giving young women [people] unrealistic expectations, they can do a lot of harm. Love chemistry usually doesn't last for life.

FTFY.

It barely lasts 3 months at the longest.

So what's the difference between couples who last after a few months and everyone else? Couples who last have learned to cooperate within the parameters of their relationship, and feel their partner is worth the effort.

Others decided not to learn it, or it was too much effort, or they were too selfish, or they simply didn't care. In any of those cases, the people involved weren't as invested in the relationship (and without a doubt, in many cases, those involved were justified in dissolving the relationship).

Bottom line: relationships take work. None are easy.

Excellent points. The pandemic seems to be taking away some crutches people were using to avoid the effort you point to.

[_Jersey Girl]

Making another run at this one.

Love chemistry usually doesn't last for life.

What you are calling love chemistry is why a relationship begins. Bonding is what makes the relationship last.