Scottie wrote:I was watching a show on Discovery today on obesity. Being single, I don't have this problem anymore, but I wondered about those of you that are married.
If your spouse were passing from a few extra pounds into obese, would you tell them?
If you had the money and could afford gastric bypass, would you suggest that your spouse get it?
I agree with Jersey Girl. Having been overweight myself, I KNEW when I was tipping the scales. LOL
The thing about weight is, if you don't do it for yourself, it's not going to happen. No one can "make" you lose weight. YOU have to want to do it for yourself, and commit to it. Before I changed careers and started teaching college, I worked as an Account Manager for a Fortune 500 company. Most of my time was spent sitting. I managed marketing campaigns for over 1000 accounts, and most of my work was done via phone and computer. Our team would order out for Chinese a lot at lunch. There was always some kind of cake in the office. It was a sugar-holics' nightmare.
Before I knew it, I weighed 270 pounds. I'm 5'7, so that doesn't bode very well. LOL The wake-up call for me came when I was winded just walking out to the parking lot to and from work. And I had to go on blood pressure medicine. I thought this was ridiculous.
So, I made small changes. A friend of mine and I started walking during lunch. No more ordering out. I basically just quit being stupid. It took me a year, but I lost 100 pounds, and have, for the most part, kept it off. (I had a baby a few years ago, and I just finished losing most of that "baby fat").
Losing the weight really changed my outlook on a lot of things. I went back to school, changed careers. My teaching career is much more active.
My point is...my husband didn't tell me, "you're fat...you need to lose weight." It was something I chose to do on my own...and because I chose to do it, I was committed.
I think that if you are concerned about your spouses' weight from a health perspective, you have to be careful about how you approach it. And, ultimately, your spouse has to be committed to losing the weight or it's not going to work.