ceeboo wrote: ↑Fri Aug 06, 2021 3:36 pm
Lem, I understand how difficult it is for you to understand a concept like individuality - I also recognize how badly you must see everything as being a mere part of a group. So to help you, I will give you a short lesson.
Everything I have posted to you on this thread has been directed at you, an individual person. Everything I have posted to you has nothing to do with whether you are a male of a female. It was directed at you. Specifically and only to you.
Now, once you wrap you mind around the foreign concept of individuality and how gigantically important, valuable and critical all of that really is, I will explain where and why sex was introduced. Sex was introduced in the discussion because I referred to the author as a guy - there is no question that I was mistaken and there is no question that your correction was valid. But my response to you (even with the highly offensive genitals remark, was because I didn't think it had much bearing to the conversation taking place) In other words, it had NOTHING to do with your sex. It had everything to do with you - a single person on a message board.
I hope that was educational.
I won't be replying to you again about this, I'm done - Go Kick Rocks!
Ceebs, just between us raccoons and whales, I don't think you are either an inferior or superior brand of human. I think you're just human -- like me. And you have a human brain, just like me. And human brains are great at creating after the fact rationalizations and treating them as motives for our actions. But the plain and humble fact is that we really can't tell why we acted in a certain way. Some part of our brain supplies the reason, but commonly after the act -- not before it. And we know from lots of studies of the brain that what we say and think and do is influenced by tons of sensory inputs that we aren't even conscious of. And it is really hard for the conscious part of our brains to spot our own biases. It's much easier to spot them in others.
So, maybe it makes sense to give serious consideration to the possibility that when we offer up a detailed explanation for past actions, it's really just a part of our brain telling us a story that makes us feel good about ourselves. And that we should always suspect that its fudging -- at least a little bit.
You had lots of possible ways to respond to Lem. One of them was to not respond at all, which would be a fairly sensible way to respond to a comment that you felt had little bearing on the conversation. Or to acknowledge the correction and move on. But what you did was focus attention on the comment that you thought had little relevance, thereby treating it as if it were important. That might be evidence of part of your brain fudging a little bit -- feeding you a rational sounding story but a story that isn't really consistent with what you did.
Given what we know about how brains work, I don't think any of us can speak with confidence as to our motives for our actions. I don't think you can, with confidence, discard out of hand the notion that the way you responded to Lem has nothing to do with her sex. For me, that doubt is reinforced by your last post, which could be held up as a classic example of "mansplaining." I doubt you see it that way, but then you aren't a woman who has encountered the phenomena day after day after day from man after man after man. That, after all, is what is meant by privilege. Your brain treats the way you experience your life as normal. So it tends to dismiss criticisms from others, who experience the world differently than you do, of what your brain considers normal.
Please don't confuse what I'm saying with being a bad person. I'm saying we all have gigantic blind spots, especially when it comes to our own behavior. And if we're going to be honest with ourselves, I think we have to acknowledge that our perceptions of our motives are at best incomplete and at worst dead wrong.