Personality Type

[_RockSlider]

did not mean it that way .... just viewed you as toby there for a minute
You made him look good by the way

[_Jersey Girl]

From the OP and I quote (myself):

I have a rare personality type. I wanted to see if there are other folks like me out there, if they feel misunderstood by others and how they make their needs known without people thinking they're nuts. ;-)

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From the OP and I quote (myself):

I have a rare personality type. I wanted to see if there are other folks like me out there, if they feel misunderstood by others and how they make their needs known without people thinking they're nuts. ;-)

So, my friend Jersey Girl, what do you think are the things that are the most misunderstood about you?

I think I have you down pretty well over these years and it's all good. You are an extremely caring person. You have a big heart and you try your best to help whichever of us wretched people cross your path. If anyone disagrees with that, they don't know you. Just my two cents.

[_RockSlider]

My guess, you are one of a kind.

I'm good with that.

[_RockSlider]

I'm simply red ... what ever happened to the color test anyway it was much simpler.

[_Jersey Girl]

So, my friend Jersey Girl, what do you think are the things that are the most understood about you?

I think I have you down pretty well over these years and it's all good. You are an extremely caring person. You have a big heart and you try your best to help whichever of us wretched people cross your path. If anyone disagrees with that, they don't know you. Just my two cents.

The things that are misunderstood is why I want to see if I can scare up any more INFJ's around here. I know they're some here. The Idealist part fits with the NF part of INFJ.

So, what things?

1. People don't understand why I need to be alone and for long periods of time...every single day.
2. People can't understand why if I don't get enough solitude, I'm going to blow up in someone's face.
3. Because we (INFJ's/Idealist's) spend quite a lot of time listening to other people express themselves or helping them. If I try to talk to someone at length about something, I usually get cut off before I'm done or feel "heard". So, I hardly ever feel "heard" or "understood" because there's no one around me who is like me, who will devotedly listen to me like I do to them.
4. We fit the profile of a counselor. That's so blatantly true! Okay, so who is MY counselor?

See? Does that sound crazy? I'm starting to think that only another person with the same personality type would identify those exact things that I just wrote above.

I'm sure that there must be websites that tell you how to get along with various personality types. For example, I'd bet my house if the question was "What do INFJ's need most?" #1 on the list would be: solitude. In other words, leave them the heck alone.

But, if you're living with or working with extroverts, they're always trying to suck the life out of you because they can't leave you alone.

[_RockSlider]

I'd bet my house if the question was "What do INFJ's need most?" #1 on the list would be: solitude. In other words, leave them the heck alone.

And yet in that solitude it seems I hear a need for a councilor, i.e. someone/thing that would break that solitude with understanding of your need of/for it?

[_Jersey Girl]

I found one!

How to Get Along with an INFJ or How Not to Become the Subject of an INFJ’s Evil Revenge Fantasies

1.An INFJ’s home is his sanctuary, an almost sacred place that is likely to be one of the few places (or the only place), where he feels comfortable. An INFJ’s sense of balance is greatly upset by disorder, especially when that disorder is present in his sanctuary. So, when you’re in an INFJ’s home, (or office, or car), clean up after yourself! However….

2.Just make sure you don’t mess with the INFJ’s “system”—his organization of drawers, cupboards, closets, etc. This is worse than putting up with a slob. (For example, I would never let someone else do my laundry or put my dishes away).

3.Have respect for the INFJ’s privacy. He is an intensely private person, both with his personal possessions and his thoughts. Even coming to the INFJ’s home without calling first and giving plenty of warning is seen as a HUGE invasion of his privacy, and is one of the worst violations you can commit against the INFJ.

4.Don’t touch! Hands off! INFJs are not touchy-feely people. Unless you have a very close relationship with him or her, you would do well to ensure that you don’t violate the INFJ’s personal space. This results in an INFJ feeling incredibly uncomfortable (I can’t stress that enough).

5.When engaged in conversation with an INFJ, pay attention! INFJs abhor small talk, and seek deep, meaningful conversations with someone who is willing to set aside all distractions and fully devote himself to the discussion at hand. So, turn off the T.V. or radio, sit down, listen thoughtfully, speak truthfully, and take an active interest in the conversation. When an INFJ is speaking with you, his attention is fully devoted to you. He expects nothing less in return.

These “rules” may seem daunting, but INFJs are intense people—if you can’t handle the intensity of the INFJ, and follow the rules, you will never be anything more than a mere acquaintance.


http://infjthoughts.tumblr.com/post/55101274985/how-to-get-along-with-an-infj-or-how-not-to-become

[_RockSlider]

[/u]4.Don’t touch! Hands off! INFJs are not touchy-feely people. Unless you have a very close relationship with him or her, you would do well to ensure that you don’t violate the INFJ’s personal space. This results in an INFJ feeling incredibly uncomfortable (I can’t stress that enough).

If I were to meet you in real life my first impulse would be to throw my arms around you and hug you tight.

[_Jersey Girl]

[/u]4.Don’t touch! Hands off! INFJs are not touchy-feely people. Unless you have a very close relationship with him or her, you would do well to ensure that you don’t violate the INFJ’s personal space. This results in an INFJ feeling incredibly uncomfortable (I can’t stress that enough).

If I were to meet you in real life my first impulse would be to throw my arms around you and hug you tight.

See, people do that all the time when they meet, right? If I saw you about to do that, my impulse would be to make sure that you couldn't.