Jersey Girl wrote: See, people do that all the time when they meet, right? If I saw you about to do that, my impulse would be to make sure that you couldn't.
You should avoid meeting me at all costs, Jersey Girl. If we ever meet in real life, you are getting a hug. I don't hug everyone, but I hug my friends (even the guys).
This, or any other post that I have made or will make in the future, is strictly my own opinion and consequently of little or no value.
"Faith is believing something you know ain't true" Twain.
Jersey Girl wrote: See, people do that all the time when they meet, right? If I saw you about to do that, my impulse would be to make sure that you couldn't.
You should avoid meeting me at all costs, Jersey Girl. If we ever meet in real life, you are getting a hug. I don't hug everyone, but I hug my friends (even the guys).
She's probably getting a hug from me too! We'd better start negotiating conditions now.
So, I also like time alone. Down time. I need down time every day. Too much activity makes me feel like things are going too fast or something.
I can relate to feeling like a counselor to many people (although not as much now that I'm out of the church). I also have a great need to feel heard and am frustrated by getting cut off in a conversation.
ETA: Looks like I'm almost 50/50 split for introvert vs. extrovert.
~Those who benefit from the status quo always attribute inequities to the choices of the underdog.~Ann Crittenden ~The Goddess is not separate from the world-She is the world and all things in it.~
Quasimodo wrote: So, my friend Jersey Girl, what do you think are the things that are the most understood about you?
I think I have you down pretty well over these years and it's all good. You are an extremely caring person. You have a big heart and you try your best to help whichever of us wretched people cross your path. If anyone disagrees with that, they don't know you. Just my two cents.
The things that are misunderstood is why I want to see if I can scare up any more INFJ's around here. I know they're some here. The Idealist part fits with the NF part of INFJ.
So, what things?
1. People don't understand why I need to be alone and for long periods of time...every single day. 2. People can't understand why if I don't get enough solitude, I'm going to blow up in someone's face. 3. Because we (INFJ's/Idealist's) spend quite a lot of time listening to other people express themselves or helping them. If I try to talk to someone at length about something, I usually get cut off before I'm done or feel "heard". So, I hardly ever feel "heard" or "understood" because there's no one around me who is like me, who will devotedly listen to me like I do to them. 4. We fit the profile of a counselor. That's so blatantly true! Okay, so who is MY counselor?
See? Does that sound crazy? I'm starting to think that only another person with the same personality type would identify those exact things that I just wrote above.
I'm sure that there must be websites that tell you how to get along with various personality types. For example, I'd bet my house if the question was "What do INFJ's need most?" #1 on the list would be: solitude. In other words, leave them the heck alone.
But, if you're living with or working with extroverts, they're always trying to suck the life out of you because they can't leave you alone.
Absolutely none of this sounds strange. : )
But I'm close in 'type' (INTP) so this probably accounts for that conclusion.
I were happy if You, Jersey Girl, AND any other would categorize me --- by my ~10000 comments here, and the data presented about myself in those utterances.
The online tests - and every self-tests - always distort. I, as everybody, try to cheat the system, to show something I would like to show about me. The only valid evaluations are the other's opinion.
- Whenever a poet or preacher, chief or wizard spouts gibberish, the human race spends centuries deciphering the message. - Umberto Eco - To assert that the earth revolves around the sun is as erroneous as to claim that Jesus was not born of a virgin. - Cardinal Bellarmine at the trial of Galilei
