The Most Shameful Injustice....

[_Jersey Girl]

I sure as hell wouldn't put a companion animal in his care. He's not willing to care for himself. Some of the comments on this thread, while well intended, aren't facing the reality that folks are talking to someone who isn't remotely interested in improving his health.

What made me think of it was an article I read recently about a lonely, very overweight man who's psychologist suggested he rescue a pet that needed a home. His newly adopted dog was also middle aged and overweight. The love and responsibility he felt for his new friend helped them both overcome their problems. A success story that made me think of faqs.

There are over a million dogs euthanized in animal control facilities and shelters every year. I thought that this may give at least one poor dog a chance for survival and could give faqs a reason to live and become healthier. It was just a thought.

I know what you're saying about companion dogs, Quasi. We have a registered ESA in our family. I credit that particular Pug as having played a critical role in the survival of my family member.

I'm also in favor of reading programs for young readers reading to shelter animals, animals working with children with autism, animal rehabilitation prison programs, therapy dogs working in support of victims, animals in nursing homes, rescue programs and such.

In the past, I've also thought of an animal for Faqs. I have reached the conclusion that I don't think Faqs is a good candidate for a support/companion animal because he hasn't demonstrated the ability to actively care for someone else outside of himself: his own offspring.

[_Quasimodo]

What made me think of it was an article I read recently about a lonely, very overweight man who's psychologist suggested he rescue a pet that needed a home. His newly adopted dog was also middle aged and overweight. The love and responsibility he felt for his new friend helped them both overcome their problems. A success story that made me think of faqs.

There are over a million dogs euthanized in animal control facilities and shelters every year. I thought that this may give at least one poor dog a chance for survival and could give faqs a reason to live and become healthier. It was just a thought.

It's definitely thoughtful on your part. I just have zero faith in him.

- Doc

Yeah, me too. I just wish that something might help. I hate to see a life thrown away, even faqs' life.

[_Jersey Girl]

Yeah, me too. I just wish that something might help. I hate to see a life thrown away, even faqs' life.

I think you know me fairly well. I think you know what level of compassion and empathy I exercise towards my fellow human being. In this case, I have no choice but to look at the total picture, Quasi, and tell it as I think it is.

Faqs habitually throws out pieces of information about his life in his posts. Sometimes it seems fully appropriate because someone is asking him why doesn't he get a job? So, he lets out a few details about his miserable circumstances.

People like you and me respond to it, or at least I have in the past. People share possible solutions as I believe canpakes did on this thread (or another thread?) about working for the Ward Clerk from home. You had the idea of a companion animal. Doc Cam is still trying to get an answer about his claims about not receiving medical care and clearance after the fight he said he had and previous to the order to return to training.

I've been back here for over a year, Quasi, and have seen this same dynamic played out over and over and over and over again.

The only conclusion I am left with is that Faqs doesn't give a damn. If he isn't motivated by the well being of his own children and his relationship with him, then I got nothing over here.

I have known days where I suffered from clinical depression (PPD and Situational), when I dragged myself through days and nights on end, single parenting while JB was stationed remote, dragged myself to the commissary on little to no sleep with a baby on my front in a carrier, a preschooler standing on the cart/running around, doing the shopping, dragging it back home, putting it away, cooking and freezing large batches of food, because I was in survival mode. I suffered from PPD, situational depression and deep grief, and I was alone from the day the baby was 9 days old. Day and night, 24/7 for months and months, for almost a year.

And when I needed help, I ASKED for it, repeatedly asked for it, begged for it, and finally DEMANDED it.

I actually had, at one point, a shrink on base ask me if I ever thought about killing myself and my straight up immediate response was, "Who would take care of my children?"

So, if Faqs isn't motivated by his own children, there is nothing that I or any of us can do and I would never place a helpless dependent animal in his care.

[_Doctor Steuss]

I actually had, at one point, a shrink on base ask me if I ever thought about killing myself and my straight up immediate response was, "Who would take care of my children?"

I dearly love your heart.

[_Jersey Girl]

I actually had, at one point, a shrink on base ask me if I ever thought about killing myself and my straight up immediate response was, "Who would take care of my children?"

I dearly love your heart.

That is a true story, I swear on my children that it is true.

I'll give you a few more pieces of me just so you can try to get some idea of why my attitude is what it is now towards Faqs.

I have never been scalded in a bath tub of hot water.
I have never been beaten up by a gang of burly Marines.
I have never weighed 200+ more pounds than I should.

But for every other single thing Faqs has ever written on this board, I can match him one for one by circumstances in my own life.


And there are posters floating around here in Old Testament who can do the same. I know it, because they share with me or they have shared their pieces of life here on the board.

When you are victimized you have two choices.

You either overcome it and use it for the betterment of yourself and others, use your knowledge and experiences as tools of insight and know-how in helping others, or you choose to live out your victim status.

Faqs is living out his victim status to the point of WALLOWING in it.

If you have PTSD or something similar, if you are in the very throes of heartache and trauma, mental illness, serious physical illness, terminal illness, I fully accept your weakness. I will sleep in an ER along side you, I will transport you where you need to go on a moment's notice, call me in the middle of the night and I'll finish the conversation while I'm pulling out of the driveway, I will give you my bed and sleep on the floor, I will feed you, soothe you and comfort you, and stick with you until you can walk under your own power again.

I've done every one of those things for people. Repeatedly.

But when you are at least 2 years out from the blow that life had handed you and you persist in not availing yourself of the help that has been offered to you, you've been provided with food, a shrink, lights/heat/water, and you have kids and you spend your time railing at strangers on the lnternet or playing online games like a teen ager, instead choosing to blame and whine, level accusations about your ex wife and what an unhinged bitch she was and is the very same person in the trenches of raising your children every single stinking day while you are virtually absent from the picture, and make excuses about why you can't do this or that. Baby, I can't help you from that point on and there is nothing anyone else can do to help you either.

[_Jersey Girl]

One more post to get a few things out of my gut and then I'll be off for a bit. I wish I could make an audio post so you all could hear the level of disgust and resoluteness in my voice if I were to comment aloud. No anger, just disgust.

I read the posts that Faqs made yesterday. I almost responded to one and then I said, "“F” it". Same crap, different day.

I'm sure that at least some here have read my comments regarding the importance of empathy and lack of or low empathy in society today.

The truth is that Faqs lacks empathy for his own children and there is no fixing that. He sees the world through the eyes of an egocentric child in which the world revolves around himself. It's about him. It's always about him. It's always going to be about him.

And that will never change.

He made and has three children out in the world, and he has effectively abandoned his responsibility to them as a father. In my eyes, there is no greater offense than that.

I don't want to hear about how many showers he takes in a week, how hard it is to engage in toileting practices, I don't want to hear about how hard he has it, can't work because he's too disabled.

When he can get up out of a bed each day, walk to the kitchen to get food when he's obviously not starving, walk to the computer and SIT ON HIS ASS every day for hours on end, happily oblivious to the risk of blood clots, cardiac events, stroke, while he sits there and PLAYS damned GAMES like a teenager for what in the working world would be TIME AND A HALF hours, lecturing people on this board about how they are liars, how they are evil...

WHILE HIS BOYS GO THROUGH LIFE WITHOUT A FATHER WHO GIVES A DAMN ABOUT THEM.

Want to talk about what evil is? Evil is a 43 year old man, who weighs 400+ pounds because he has stuffed his face full of food every day of his life for years on end, living off the charity of others while his children grow up, being raised by the mother that he regularly demonizes on this board in front of god and everybody, who sees to their daily needs for food, shelter, education, recreation, spiritual guidance, while Faqs himself SITS ON HIS FAT ASS AND COMPLAINS ABOUT HIS HORRIBLE LOT IN LIFE and where here complains about now having a "serious illness" called sleep apnea, when the sleep apnea is the DIRECT RESULT OF HIS GLUTTONY, HIS CHILDISH ABANDONMENT OF EVERY RESPONSIBILTY HE HAS TO HIS CHILDREN AND SOCIETY IN GENERAL and particularly, specifically CHECKED OUT ON HIS OWN CHILDREN.

I say, “F” him.

And Faqs if you happen to read this, I'll happily burn in hell or “F” myself, so long as it isn't anywhere in spitting distance of YOU. You are someone I don't want to know that I even inhabit the same planet with. In all my interactions with you I have taken into consideration the child that you were and the children that you made. While everyone here, including myself, has knocked themselves out trying to think of ways to help you, you have turned your back on your own children and so far as I am concerned, you've gotten exactly what you CHOSE.

In other words, “F” this crap.

[_ldsfaqs]

Same ol wicked perversion of the truth and abusiveness from you people.

[_Jersey Girl]

Same ol wicked perversion of the truth and abusiveness from you people.

You make a conscious decision every day that you open your eyes, to abandon your children.

“F” off.