Res Ipsa wrote:Wise words, Steuss. DT, read the post 1x per day until you understand it — not intellectually, but deep in your gut.
I wholeheartedly agree with Res Ipsa, doubtingthomas. You truly NEED to read Doctor Steuss's post once per day until it has become integrated into your mind and soul.
doubtingthomas wrote: ↑Tue Dec 06, 2022 8:25 pm
Dr. Shades wrote: ↑Tue Dec 06, 2022 10:18 am
Why are you wasting so many keystrokes discussing women whom you
can't attract?
A little bit of resentment.
Okay, I get that. . . somewhat. But being resentful is a trait that tends to close doors with the opposite sex rather than open them. So, would you like to overcome your resentment? If so, let me tell you my experience: Considering my age, looks, career, income, and educational level, I have very, very little chance of attracting MANY . . . or, much more likely,
most . . . of the single women on this earth. (There may be exceptions, like what happened to Father Francis, but I'll follow your lead and go by the law of averages.) Now, I could allow myself to be resentful, like you are a little bit, of all the categories of women who statistically won't be attracted to me, but then I remind myself of a VERY important fact: There are various traits that some women have that will statistically preclude me from being attracted to THEM, too. As a matter of fact, I have enough deal-breakers that a great many of the single women on this earth won't be attract
I V E to me, just like different subsets of them won't be attract
E D to me, either.
So, please tell us:
Are there, or are there not, generalized categories of women to whom you are flat-out NOT attracted, just the same way educated career women statistically won't be attracted to you? If so, how is that any more or less fair than what you've been complaining about here? And do the women in your deal-breaker category have just as much of a right to be resentful as you? If so, is that rational or irrational?
A second thing that destroys resentment is the knowledge that even if all other things are equal and I meet someone whom I find attractive who is likewise attracted to me, chances are ENORMOUS that our inevitably varying personality types will be incompatible with each other and we won't be a match anyway, regardless of any mutual attraction. That's just the way it works, not only with me, but with you, too . . . and everyone else.
A third and final thing that destroys resentment is the knowledge that I don't need to be attractive to EVERY subtype of women in this world. In fact, I can be UNattractive to MOST women in this world. Why? Because
I only need one woman. I'm sure you're the same way: To find love, fulfillment, and happiness, I'm sure that you, too, only need one woman: You don't need all late teenaged women, all virgin women, all educated women, or all career women to be attracted to you. You only need ONE woman to whom you are attracted, who is attracted to you, and with whom your personalities are compatible.
CONCLUSION:
Why be resentful, why post statistical studies, etc. of all the different women in this world who won't be, or aren't, attracted to you when all you need is ONE woman who
is anyway? If having a relationship is so important to you, then spend your time, attention, and energy focusing on meeting that one rather than complaining about the literal
hundreds of millions who AREN'T that one.