My TBM GF's latest gem

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_Scottie
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Some Schmo wrote:Here's a scenario for ya: child #1 says at the dinner table, "My friend says he doesn't believe in god. What do you think, Daddy?"


"People all over the world have many different beliefs. Some believe in God, some believe in Allah, some in Buddah and some don't believe in any kind of God. We need to have respect for everyone and their beliefs. Your friend has beleifs that are real to him and just as you wouldn't want anyone to make fun of you for what you believe, you should respect what they believe."

Psshhhh...I've been in apologetics long enough to know how to indirectly address the question without directly answering it. Give me something tough!!
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Post by _mormonmistress »

I have to agree with Some Schmo. Living a lie is no way to live your life. Would this girl want to be with someone who was just pretending to believe for her sake? What basis for a loving and honest relationship is that? If you don't believe, at least have the guts to be honest about it and tell her. If she can live with that, all good. If she can't then you know that this TBM isn't for you.
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Scottie wrote:
Some Schmo wrote:Here's a scenario for ya: child #1 says at the dinner table, "My friend says he doesn't believe in god. What do you think, Daddy?"


"People all over the world have many different beliefs. Some believe in God, some believe in Allah, some in Buddah and some don't believe in any kind of God. We need to have respect for everyone and their beliefs. Your friend has beleifs that are real to him and just as you wouldn't want anyone to make fun of you for what you believe, you should respect what they believe."

Psshhhh...I've been in apologetics long enough to know how to indirectly address the question without directly answering it. Give me something tough!!


"But Daddy, what do *you* think?"

(Kids aren't stupid. My daughter catches me every time I try to dodge a question the way you just did. And she keeps pestering me till I answer the question. I've taught her well.

The apologists might be able to fool the foolish Mormons, but they couldn't fool my six-year-old girl.)
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My biggest worry with respect to Scottie is that any truly TBM woman will want one thing above all else, and that is to be married to a worthy penishood holder who will lead her and her kids back to the Celestial Kingdom. If she knows you don't really believe, and are just faking it, she will never, ever be satisfied with her relationship with you, no matter how good it is in any other respect.
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Sethbag wrote:My biggest worry with respect to Scottie is that any truly TBM woman will want one thing above all else, and that is to be married to a worthy penishood holder who will lead her and her kids back to the Celestial Kingdom. If she knows you don't really believe, and are just faking it, she will never, ever be satisfied with her relationship with you, no matter how good it is in any other respect.


Yep, I was thinking about this too, but didn't even go into her side of it.

As utopian as you may think it is for you, Scottie, it certainly won't be so for her if she's any kind of TBM at all. She certainly wouldn't respect the answer you gave to the god question, for instance, even if it did deflect your kid, because from a Mormon standpoint, it's the wrong answer. I've never heard a Mormon say that we should respect atheists.
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Some Schmo wrote:I've never heard a Mormon say that we should respect atheists.


We should respect atheists. I personally would not marry one.
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Post by _charity »

Sethbag wrote:Charity, I'm not sure what we're arguing about, but I'll do my best to hold up my end of it. ;-) You implied that the believer's response to FPRs is to smile politely while recognizing that they were incorrect, and that the alternative to this, as you believe Mr. Scratch meant, was to wallow in misery thinking everyone is lying or out to deceive.

I would hope not. But that is what I see. All this talk about how the General Authorities allow disinformation sure sounds the claim of deception like deception.
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don't think it's a fair characterization to assume that the critic's attitude is necessarily that the church is out to lie and deceive. There is room in the critics' tent for people like myself who recognize that the church leaders actually believe what they say, and that they're just wrong about it. I believe Joseph Smith knew he was making it up as he went along, but his successors actually believed it all. I believe GBH has a firm testimony that the church is true. He's wrong, though.

I can accept that as a valid point of view of a critic who is not motivated by bitternes and a need to justify his/her lack of belief.

I agree with the notion that FARMS is more about people knowing that "smart people" have looked into things, and still believe it's true, than it is about actually finding real proof, and real evidence, for the church's claims.

This I do not agree with you on. I frankly do not know how to explain the rejection of the studies done by FARMS people which tend to support the Book of Mormon. All I can think (and let me say I realize this is very much paradigm driven) is that their minds are made up and they don't want to hear anything contrary to their beliefs.


The thing is, I don't think DCP and the others are lying.

Thank for that. I think you are in a small company of critics, however.


I don't see liars behind every bush. I see people who actually believe the church is true, and actually believe that the Book of Mormon will someday be vindicated, who assume that there must be a way to explain all the problematic things, etc. So they scurry away trying to do these things, and the LDS faithful who even know FARMS exist look to them and think hey, some smart people are working on all of these questions, and they still believe in the church, so there must be a good reason for it.

And I am one who looks at what they produce and accept. But these evidences do not not convince me. I am already convinced by a high power.


I don't see liars behind every bush. What I see is the blind leading the blind. I see deceived people (deceived, ultimately, by Joseph Smith) leading other people to join in and support the deception, but they don't think it's deception, they think it's revelation and faith and all the rest.

Some may think. Some of us know.

Look at the Book of Abraham apologetics. The Book of Abraham is so transparently and obvious fraudulent that it's not even funny. Joseph Smith undoubtedly deceived his followers when he held it up to his followers as the translation from the ancient Egyptian papyrus in his possession of a real story that had been penned by Abraham. This cannot be doubted by anyone except the true believers who need for the book to be true. So now we have Book of Abraham apologetics attempting to legitimize defense of an obvious fraud. They are supporting the continuation of a deception, but they do it believing they are supporting the defense of something that's true. They're wrong, though. You can Nibley up all the parallels you want, but Joseph Smith still invented the Book of Abraham and passed it off as a true translation.

I don't believe the Book of Abraham was a "translation" any more than the Book of Moses was. If you can't read the correspondences with ancient Abrahamic literature and wonder at the way in which Joseph Smith was able to produce the same principles, then I wonder if you aren't the blind. But we can disagree on this without animosity.

Disinformation is disinformation even when it's given with belief.

I would like you to show me some disinformation. Facts, please.

If the GAs know that the faith promoting rumors are simply false, they ought to do more to inform members of that fact, and to take a firmer, more quotable stand against such false rumors being circulated by sunday school teachers, seminary teachers, fireside speakers, and whatnot. There is undeniably a tradition of faith promoting rumors in the LDS church, and the GAs seem to do essentially nothing at all to discourage it.

Except speak against it as Elder Packer has done specificially. I don't think it is the misison or purpose of the General Authorities to try to figure out what is being mistakenly thought or taught by every single member. We are told to study the scriptures and teach the doctrine. Joseph said he taught the people correct principles and let them govern themselves. The General Authorities aren't called to be prophets, seers and micromanagers
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To an extent this has even been institutionalized, as in the earlier Book of Mormon edition cited earlier in this thread, containing photos of Mesoamerican ruins and such with an implication that these were Book of Mormon sites. I remember quite a few years back watching a film produced by the church about Book of Mormon archeology, showing ruins containing what were claimed to be LDS-style baptismal fonts, stone boxes, and the like, all in the service of "proving" that the Book of Mormon is archeologically sound.

I wouldn't disagree with showing that such things existed in the right time and place without pointing to Chichen Itza and saying, "This is Zarahemla."


What I disagree with is that the LDS church leadership are actually setting out to lie and deceive. I believe that the LDS leadership truly believe in the church, and believe it's true, and believe that what they do is for the best, and that protecting peoples' testimonies is of vital importance for their salvation and so forth. That doesn't stop them from being wrong, however, and I'm now convinced that they are in fact wrong.

And this makes us on different sides of the fence, but we don't have to be enemies. I appreciate your candor and civilit
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Re: My TBM GF's latest gem

Post by _LifeOnaPlate »

Some Schmo wrote:
liz3564 wrote: "Cram and slap action"?

you'll have two choices: either eat your integrity and let her raise them to embrace a lack of critical thinking skills, or fight each other about how to raise them until your inevitable divorce.


First, I agree that inter-faith marriages often encounter trouble based on the differences, and second, it is a bit condescending to assert all Mormon children are raised to embrace a "lack of critical thinking skills."
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Re: My TBM GF's latest gem

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LifeOnaPlate wrote: First, I agree that inter-faith marriages often encounter trouble based on the differences, and second, it is a bit condescending to assert all Mormon children are raised to embrace a "lack of critical thinking skills."


You think? Mormons are supposed to accept that a guy went into the forest and saw god. They're supposed to believe everything they're leaders tell them, and they're not supposed to question them. They're supposed to avoid information that is contrary to church claims.

If that, alone, doesn't spell a lack of critical thinking, I don't know what does.
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Post by _barrelomonkeys »

Scottie, you already have children, no? This just has disaster written all over it. Just think about a blended family (if you have children with this girlfriend) and the stress not only that family dynamic will create but also the religious tension.

RUUUUUUUUUNNNNNNN!
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